there are these older people across the street. as soon as they found out i was pregnant, they keep calling me and asking to visit. once i had my baby, they keep calling me and sending me cute notes in the mail. i think they are SO creepy...like they are going to steal my baby. anyways, i don't want to be friends. i never call them.
today, she called and said "we want to give you some donuts." i was so surprised, i said "ok, but please wait till my husband gets home." i do not want them here, but i can't be so mean either bc they live across the street and i will run into them.
they could be crazy, you don't know. what should i do? how do i get them to stop bothering me?
2007-01-05 09:35:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
how do i get them not to visit today in 1.5 hours?
2007-01-05 09:35:52 · update #1
they have visited me before. THEN, i realized they are creepy.
2007-01-05 10:06:24 · update #2
Dont answer the door!!!! If they ask later say you and the baby fell asleep. Just start avoiding them all together.
On another note, these may be some genuinely nice people who maybe wanted to have a child but never did, or whose kids/grandkids are out of state. A host of reasons. Plain and simple though, follow your instinct. If you don't feel comfy, tell them that. Also say you don't wish to have comapny unless your husband is home.
HTH
2007-01-05 09:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by micmac_9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as you may be correct in thinking they are creepy, it is possible they are just a sweet couple whose own family are all grown up and moved away (or possibly they are childless) thus they simply want to spoil a child in the manner all grandparents do.
So, why not set it up with your husband for them to come over for a drink or dessert (something that is typically representative of a short visit as opposed to dinner which implies longevity). During the visit find out a little about them and see if your fears are unfounded or not. If everythign is cool and you figure they aren't ogres, then repeat it a few times and your unease will diminish.
And even if they prove to be okay people but you preder they don't come into your place while hubby is at work, then set up some little neighbourhood gatherings on the front lawn where everyone can come talk and enjoy a coffee or lemonade. In other words be neighbourly with everyone including them.
2007-01-05 17:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out side. Act like your doing something in the yard. or something. Do some checking up on them. Play I spy. See who goes over there house. When you meet them today, OUTSIDE to get your donuts, start asking questions.Ask if they have any grandchildren and ask how many if any. They may not have children or who knows there child could of died. Who knows. They may not have no one to leave there money too. Who knows. You need to find out these things. Who knows they might just be really nice people who knows.
2007-01-05 17:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugh well i think since you said ok that you need to let them come over but tell her husband how you fell. and together the two of you can come up with an excuse to let come and leave fast. like your on your way out to dinner. or you have a previous engagement that you have to get ready for then leave the house for a Little while. or just stay home and if they call back say it was canceled. good luck !
2007-01-05 17:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~AmethystMoonBeams~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think they're crazy and weird? Sounds like to me that they're just being generous neighbors. Cute notes and doughnuts? Why are you complaining? I hope that's what my neighbors do when I have a baby. If they really are weird, then don't pick up the phone when they call (if they have your phone #).
If it really bothers you, then, like you did before, tell them to please wait until your husband is around. Good luck!
2007-01-05 17:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband's home, just let them come and be nice, but not SO nice that they want to strike up a big friendship with you. They are your neighbors, so you can take having them over for a few minutes.
2007-01-05 17:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that the child has come down with a slight stomach virus, and that you are going to be wrist deep in **** all night
2007-01-05 17:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by josh f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt be worried, You say you would contact them if you need any help not to worry about you! lol...But RESPECt them! They are elder people, I think at that age all they want is "Respect"!!
2007-01-05 18:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by PreeAksh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your phone number and call non poilce department phone number
2007-01-05 17:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by andykpln 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them you and your husband are swingers
2007-01-05 17:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋