how to make my husband happy with me?

Question

I try to do everything for him.. We have a 3 year old boy I am trying to potty train, A 2 year old girl who wants to potty train and do everything I do, and a 2 month old boy who is a normal newborn, eat sleep and change diapers, I clean the house from top to bottom all the time, I fix meals, I do dishes, We have 3 dogs and 4 cats (3 cats are inside all the time), I change the litter box and feed them, I try to get to the dogs if not I ask him to do it for me, I go grocery shopping with the kids and sometime the mother in law, I am tired at night, but for him I try to stay up for him to have someone to talk to. But I see feel like he isn't thankful. He gets on the computer and look at wrestling and of course eats supper and then maybe tv but then he goes to bed. I ask him can we talk and he always said like he is bored " What about now" I am tired. He thinks my job at home is nothing compared to his. And that I should not be as tired as him. I

I still feel like it isn't enough. What should I do?

I feel like I am not doing enough what should i do to make me feel like I am doing enough?

Answer 1

For him to be happy with you:
Smile at him when he walks into the room.
Speak to him in a sweet voice.
Practice forbearance when he offends you.
Try not to say anything negative to him, about him or anyone/anything else.
Thank him for being a provider for you/family.
Give him sincere compliments.
Give him the physical touch that he needs.
Try this for a week and see if it makes a difference.

Answer 2

Seriously, think about: you have 3 kids, 7 pets, a husband. I'm a mother too, kids are a lot work and a lot of fun, if well managed. You have too many pets. You take care of everybody(11 all together) and I bet you don't have time to enjoy yourself.
When your husband gets home, go to a Nail place, let him watch the kids at least a couple times a week, join a gym, you'll make friends, do something for yourself, otherwise you'll feel stressed, tired. Sorry but you're the only one that's letting all this happen.
Do not be a slave, men do not appreciate that, not for a second !!! Do something for yourself to feel good and pretty, things we'll change, if you change.
Good luck !

Answer 3

It's really important that you get tell him this. Take one night sometime soon and ask him to to go out to dinner with you. A nice restaraunt. Dress up, give the kids to a sitter or a trusted friend for a night. Go out and have a nice evening with him and talk about these things. Make sure he knows how you feel, but use "I feel" messages so he doesn't feel like you are just waging a finger in his face. But talk about it with him. If you keep it inside it will hurt both of you. Think of ways to do more to show your appreciation to each other. It's a two way street; let him know how you really feel and make sure he truly understands. And don't worry. You are a good wife and any guy would be lucky to have you. :) Best of luck!

Answer 4

You do not have to do anything to MAKE your husband happy with you. It is time your husband does something to please YOU. What you need to do is take some time away from the house during the day and make your Husband stay home with the kids and animals. One week of doing your job will convince your husband that his job is very easy compared to yours (it did for me). You might also think about getting rid of the computer for awhile. My wife and I have been married over 20 years and I remember going through this same type of situation. I remember when I would ask "what now" when she wanted to talk. She would tell me that she wanted to talk to someone over 3 ft tall!!! If he does not want to cooperate, you may think about no longer doing things for him. It sound like without you, your husband would have nothing to eat and no clean clothes for work. Make him do some of the work and see if he is not more appreciative of the things you do.
Good Luck!

Answer 5

You have too many young children (not well thought out but too late now). You also have too many animals around those young children (what were you even thinking?). Your husband most likely hates the stress associated with 3 young children, and just wishes his life were the same as it was before the children arrived. Men arent always as enthusiastic as women are about young children and babies. He probably just wants to be left alone. You need to have your mother in law babysit the children for a weekend, and you need to get away with your husband and spend time as husband and wife without all the fuss and muss of the children.

Answer 6

If your husband love you, he will be happy with you when you become happy with yourself.
Start making a list of all the things that will make you happy. (when you wanted help with the dogs, you ask him to do it for you.) So why can't you sit down with him and work out the things that will make both of you happy.
PS. Everybody thinks that their job is nothing compare to others. They work hard and is always tired. Who can feel how tired another person is.

Answer 7

So sad that you women feel you must be a slave to a guy to make him happy. You know what. I bet he'd be more happy with a dirt litter box, a sink full of dishes, a dirt house, but a sexy energetic wife in a dress ready to go out to a nice dinner and sex in a seedy motel room. Men what a sexy wife not a maid.

Answer 8

You need to read John Gray's "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." You are doing TOO MUCH. You have no life of your own and no time for yourself. He thinks your job at home is nothing compared to his and he doesn't respect or appreciate you because you're doing too much for him.

Also, NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, YOU CANNOT MAKE ANYONE ELSE HAPPY. Happiness is an inside job. His happiness is not dependent upon you. Make yourself happy first.

Answer 9

About Six months ago there was a story on the news.... i think it was chanel 2 in sf bay area that said if stay at home moms made actual money for what they do they'd mae 140,000$ look that fact aup and think about it

Answer 10

You can't "make" anyone happy with you. Each individual is responsible for his or her own happiness. While it sounds like he is being a jerk what you are experiencing is experienced by many couples in your situation. The best advice is to tend to your own happiness. Do what you need to do to know that you are a wonderful productive woman in primary charge of raising three wonderful children who will be the next generation of leaders!