Met this girl a month ago, i think shes brlliant, she says shes serious about us and i feel the same too. she is the one for me. should i ask her to marry me??
2007-01-05 09:20:46 · 26 answers · asked by softie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even thou we have been together for a month we have known each other for a year and have always been really close... any changes to any ones answer????
2007-01-05 09:33:30 · update #1
woooooah slow down spend some time with her if shes right then she will still be there in 12 months time
2007-01-05 09:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Waiting would really be the sensible answer.. but i got engaged to my partner after 2 months of being together and like you we had known each other for a year as close friends, it seemed a bit rushed and some people were against it but we love each other and think we made the right decision, we get married in August and couldn't be happier. If your totally sure she's the one for you and she feels the same then i think you should go for it! Good Luck
2007-01-05 09:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by Shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to wait until you have been through a few fights and see how you feel. If you guys can reconcile and recognize that what you have is important, you will always want to make up and find ways to get back together. If you find you get into nasty fights and can't every get past certain issues, it is probably not going to work ever. You won't have serious conflicts until you start revealing your ugly side and she starts finding out everything about your personality. Right now you are just showing each other your best sides and don't know each other well enough to know it can last a lifetime. After you have been through some ugly stuff, you will know.
2007-01-05 10:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by MoshiDog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my partner for 3 weeks before we decided we wanted to be married, we both knew it. We didn't do it as we thought the same thing - are we rushing things? We have been together nearly 7 years and still honeymoon (when the kids allow). Still not married, but too happy to care! Truth is, we could split next year, who knows, life and people change so why wait till your unhappy, there are no guarantees no matter how long you wait.
2007-01-05 12:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can do is to tell you my experience. My husband and I met and we knew automatically that we were made for each other. Three months later we were engaged. Four months after that we were married. We are in love and we are happier to this day than we have ever been before. If you are both sure about it then I say go for it. But you both have to realize that it isn't always going to be easy. There will be times when you don't agree or get along, but if you both keep believing that it is meant to be you will make it.
2007-01-05 09:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by small_town_gal_05 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is to soon to jump the gun. Many people feel this way and end up making a mistake. I was with someone for 1 1/2 and he proposed...I said yes, and he turned into a big jerk. I am now married to a wonderful man (will be 3 years in Feb).
Anyway, although I knew he was the one from our first date, I would not have accepted a proposal to him at this time. We were together for 2 years, living together for 1 before he proposed. I think it is very important to live together before getting married (I know, living in sin).
Nobody can tell you what to do or what not to do...if you think she is your soul mate, by all means, but I personally think it is way, way to soon.
2007-01-05 09:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by Newmomofone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a month??? I felt like saying: Are you out of your mind?!
:You're so into her!!!!
But do you know the REAL her??
I mean, what's the rush? You'll still love her next month, and you'll have a bit more valid reasons to then ask.
Well, if you think you know what you need to know, then go for it.
Hope you know enough.
It has worked for people; Either they could read the future, or they were very lucky.
Well, you can always try and see what happens.
Good luck!
2007-01-05 09:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, as long as you r the type of person to have no regrets and appreciate the time you have right here right now. Then feel the fear and do it anyway.
I got married after 6 yrs and 2 yrs in it's rough so it doesn't matter which way u do it
2007-01-05 09:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it a bit of time, things are always great when you first meet someone you like, but i would give it a while to wait for things to settle and let the buzz of a new relationship calm down a but. If it is meant to be for you both then you will both be there in 6 mo ths time or so. Take it slowly.
2007-01-05 09:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by kerrybv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion: Not yet. You guys are still in the honeymoon phase when everyone is on best behavior. Give your relationship some time.
Marriage is a serious thing, and shouldn't be jumped into quickly, or taken lightly.
It's wonderful you have found this woman. But focus on getting to know her more.
2007-01-05 09:24:23 · answer #10 · answered by Your Highness 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO!!!
I was with a chap for nearly 10yrs and we split, he was brilliant. Just cos you think someone is brilliant, you can't marry them!
I'm brilliant, and you wouldn't marry me, would you!?
When she says she is serious, I think what she means is that she wants the relationship to be exclusive, not that she wants marriage.
If she is the one for you, spend a couple more years doing the things that you want to do, then think about getting married. She'll be there waiting.
2007-01-05 18:49:35 · answer #11 · answered by HowdoIknowthat?? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋