my partner has said that she is going to leave me because I rang the police about a text message she sent me last night saying that she couldn't take some people anymore and wanted to die, it looked to serious for me to ignore and seemed like a cry for help and thats why I did what I did, she later messaged me and said that she was only upset and wanted to winge and that she loves me, she then messaged me to say what do you like about me? mwa which means kisses.....I have sent her an email saying that I am sorry for what I had done last night and several txts and have said that I will ring her tonight but I am looking for advice because I just dont know what she will say when I verbally tell her why I called the police....I really have no idea so if you can please give me some ideas that would be appreciated.
thanks
Mitch
note: I dont know why she sent the message like she did when all she wanted to do was have a winge, I hope she knows how much worry this has caused me :(
2007-01-05 09:18:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry, but she's thinking only of herself...NOT you. She has low self-esteem as well as other emotional issues. You did the right thing. The 2nd right thing is to lose her. She'll be nothing but trouble, and you don't sound like the type of person who deserves to be treated this way, abusively, weirdly, and, well, she's whacked and there's nothing you can do about it. This is one situation you're best off backing away from, and finding a stable and normal girl instead of this (uh, sorry--) mess.
2007-01-05 09:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by Iseult 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Mitch,
It is important for you to be a shoulder to lean on for your girlfriend and assure her that you are there for her. When you speak with her tonight explain the reason you called the police was because you were truly concerned with her health and well being.
The truth is, no one send messages or tells someone that they want to die if they are not actually feeling that way. So for your girlfriend to make such a drastic cry for help she must have really been upset. It's very likely that her self esteem is low and she is depressed all of the time. Even times when she seems happy.
If you really care for this young lady then you will help her learn more about depression and it's effects, you may even offer going to see a counselor with her.
She is probably feeling betrayed by you, and if she was just trying to get your attention, she may be upset because she did not get the reaction out of you that she anticipated. Just comfort her the best you can but help her prepare for professional help.
2007-01-05 09:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and yes i applaud you for reacting the way that you did because you have to take anyone serious today when they say things like that , admitting that you want to die is a cry for help so just come out and tell her the truth of why you called the police , and if she did not mean what she had said then to stop crying wolf , just to get someones attention, if she cannot understand why you did what you did out of concern for her then she should realize that no one should ever cry wolf
2007-01-05 09:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by shirleylindsay1956 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you were worried about her and were trying to do what you thought was best for her. You should question your own involvement with someone so unstable as to look for attention that way though. It's uncool to cause someone to worry just to see how much he or she cares. She needs counselling. It's up to you to decide whether or not you can weather the storms ahead. This was just a test.
2007-01-05 09:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she truly did it on a "winge", she mightbe annoyed that you called the police but ultimatley she would understand. too many people do kill themselves because others do not take their threats seriously. You did not do anything wrong.
If she was serious, you might have saved her life. Now she knows how much you care.
Take heart; things should go back to normal soon.
2007-01-05 09:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by CrystalEyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you care about her too much to even take the chance she might harm herself. Tell her next time don't text that type of message, just call you so you can hear her voice and discuss it with her. She'll understand. Good Luck Mitch.
2007-01-05 09:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know if i would have went as far as calling the police.. but that does show how great you are because you were worried about ehr and didnt want to do anything not good for her self.. so just tell her that! and good luck
2007-01-05 09:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by miss lyss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have called dept. of mental health, and still should! i have never seen a more desperate cry for help, which is often laughed off by suicidal individuals, unitl it boils over and SLIT!
2007-01-05 09:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell her that's why....because you were worried about her.
2007-01-05 09:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude tell that.... it bothered you and you dont want anything to happen to her.. and you care for her and bla bla bla
2007-01-05 09:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by laci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋