Are people really born gay/straight or do they find out their attractions(straight,homosexual,bisexual) later on in life? because when i was 5 i wasn't attracted to anybody yet (not like that i mean) till i was like 13. we might had been born with are bodies made 2 make babies with the opposite sex......but were we born to LOVE as straight people? Or even born 2 love as gay, elezbian, or bisexual people?
2007-01-05 09:16:17 · 17 answers · asked by voicegoddess9 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes, people are born gay. Children do not know about sex; therefore, they do not know about their sexual attraction. When adolescence hits and once the hormones have settled down is when one usually notices their sexual attraction.
2007-01-05 10:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow! There are some sad and misguided answers here! I think the best answer is to listen to the people who really identify as gay. Why not go directly to the source and talk with gay people about their life experiences and feelings and see how they compare. I think you will find remarkable similarities. Except perhaps for some behavioral professionals , a heterosexual person trying to explain and define the experiences of a homosexual person during childhood and development is pointless and at best misguided and full of assumed misinformation. I sure hope you know that making babies isn't the definition of your sexuality, it's a biological function that certainly plays a part of your sexual identity.You may have the role of mother, spouse, co-parent, life-partner, single-parent, etc...what ever role(s) you develop. But your not just a baby maker my dear, your a woman. :)
2007-01-05 10:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by Eddie V 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you cannot choose who you fall in love with, that previous answerer is off the mark completely. You don't look at someone and suddenly decide you're going to make yourself love them. Anyone who tries to tell you that has NEVER experienced love at all! EVER!
Hopefully no one is actually attracted to anyone sexually before they've reached puberty, if they are...it's usually due to some sort of abuse.
Now, as far as knowing what you would be attracted to once you reach sexual maturity, that's something completely different. You may have crushes on someone at a young age and not understand what that means.
I know I always had crushes on all my female little girl friends when I was prepubescent. But I didn't know what those crushes meant at all.
Later I knew I was attracted to females, but did everything I could think of to deny that I was actually a lesbian. I knew I was, even said to myself once or twice "What if anyone finds out?"
So I dated boys/guys all through high school and later on. I even married a man and had a son hoping that if I did everything "hetero" I would somehow magically transform myself into being hetero.
The truth is, you can't and don't change your sexuality. It's something hardwired and you have no control over.
Now as far as making babies is concerned, many lesbians and gay men are having, adopting and raising children. Just being gay/lesbian doesn't mean your not physiologically identical to heteros, it just means who you love is different than heteros.
And yes, we do actually LOVE our partners. Our relationships are not solely based on sex alone.
2007-01-05 09:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its called PAN.
When you look at a man and think, oh yeah, he is cute! I want some of that!
You can also look at a female the same way and think...oh yeah, she is hot too.
I believe, its not that you are born with it, but what attracts you.
I love women, always will, always have, but sometimes...there is a boy I think, omg! if he was a woman I would totally do him!
So...it just depends.
When I was 5 I had sex with a neighbor girl, and I thought it was weird. I had the hardest time thinking...the parts should fit, thats the only way, but when you are in the arms of a woman, and all you feel is the emotion and the passion a woman has, it changes EVERYTHING...
2007-01-05 09:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
How many times does this question have to be answered. You love and are attracted to who you love and are attracted to. This could be a guy could be female. Some has to do with the genes some is by choice.
But at age 13 regardless of who a preson is attracted they need to keep their pants on and zipped up.
2007-01-05 09:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by Firebreather 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I tell people that we're all born asexual, because no one pops out of the womb and is romantically or sexually attracted to ANYONE. That said, I do think that at least a major portion of the influences on which sexual orientation someone will end up with is due to things that happen before birth.
2007-01-05 19:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
We are all born with our sexual orientation, but the reason you weren't attracted to boys until you were 13 is because you hadn't hit puberty yet. Before puberty children typically do not have an attraction to the opposite sex or same sex (depending on their orientation). That is why in elementary school girls may refer to boys as "gross" or "icky."
2007-01-05 09:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by Hmmm... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your hormonal receptor in your brain doesn't kick in until puberty or within a year after, so you shouldnt have when you were 5, and 13 sounds about a good age for you to start. Whatever that hormonal receptor is "excited" by, be it testosterone or estrogen or both, determines your sexuality
2007-01-05 09:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by guitarherofairy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
From the age of 11 i knew i was gay.44 later still am.
rob.xxx
2007-01-05 09:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmmm
2015-11-16 16:33:44 · answer #10 · answered by Connie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋