At the moment I feel very depressed, why is that. I tought that the day he will move away I will be so happy. He took most of the furniture and he left me almoust empty place. What should I do in order to feel better?
2007-01-05 09:14:44 · 11 answers · asked by brenda29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Realize that you are safe now, and alive. Don't think about how empty your place. Look at it as your freedom, and you can now make your life what you want it to be, free of his tyranny. GET OUT OF THE HOUSE! If you don't already have a job find one. If you do have one think about hobbies. What do you like to do, and then do it.
You should consider a counseling group for abused women, they can become your support network. Some will be ahead of where you are and you get advise from them on how to rebuild. Contact your local abused women shelters and they should be able to hook you up with free or close to it counseling.
If you sit a home and mope he still has power of you, think about it.
2007-01-05 09:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by sarcasm_gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't let your husband's problems weigh you down. If he knew you were asking him to leave only for a while, he shouldn't have taken anything. He may think you don't want him back at all. You may be feeling depressed cuz you're alone now. Get a good book, nothing sad, or watch a funny movie, call up your girlfriends or sisters if you have any and go shopping or do something fun to keep your mind occupied. Start saving some money to replace the furniture. Do not let this get you down. You've put up with alot in the past from him I'm sure and he's only getting the better of you. Give yourself some time you'll get over him and the furniture.
2007-01-05 17:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by dottieinNM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all kudos to you for taking a step to a reality check for your husband and yourself. I hope that your husband can get some help and that you all can reconcile one day. Meanwhile, It's not unusual to feel that way. Someone you love even though they have problems has left your immediate home. For sure you must at least miss him and I'm sure that contributes to the way you feel. I would suggest going to couseling with him or even offering to go to some AA meetings with him as support. Be open and honest about feelings, but respectful. You could also go talk to a counselor yourself to sort through your feelings and get a handle on why you feel depressed. If he moved out just because he was kicked out, then that is running away from the problem. Don't be afraid to talk it out and support each other. If it was an abusive relationship then make sure you have a trusted third party present or meet in a public place. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-05 17:21:48 · answer #3 · answered by d4cav_dragoons_wife84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still love him. Did he receive help? I mean you did ask him to move, but if he didn't resolve his problem , than he could come back bringing the same issues. It might be for the best hon. Everything happens for a reason. Just talk to him and try and resolve everything, offer to go with him to AA meetings or something. If not you have to get on with your life,cause you deserve so much better. Keep your head up no matter what.
2007-01-05 17:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by lhpretty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As lame as it sounds get a hold of some books on Alanon and the topic of an alcoholic spouse. I am married to an alcoholic and I know how rough it can be. I know it must've been really hard to tell him to leave because we love the men but hate the disease! I read "Loosing the Grip", it's a book that my niece who is in school to be a drug/alcohol counselor had to read and it really helped me to learn about my feelings regarding the disease and my love for him.
Best of luck to you!!
2007-01-05 17:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejoice in the fact that you don't have to deal with an alcholic. You go out and have fun, meet new people, start over. Taking the first step is the hardest.
2007-01-05 17:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in your phone book for Al-anon. They provide group support for those living with an alcoholic. Although technically, you do not live with your husband right at this moment, you are still married.
2007-01-05 17:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask him to move away or get out of your house....sounds like he thought you meant to get out for good. I think u miss him which is making u feeel depressed. You miss his presence and what not. You should keep in touch with him, phone calls would do?
2007-01-05 17:20:51 · answer #8 · answered by aninjashinobi25 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Buy more furniture.
2007-01-05 17:17:28 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have a few drinks...
2007-01-05 17:16:22 · answer #10 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋