I recently lost my parner of 15 years.We were highschool sweathearts.We parented three children.13,8 and 2.Does the heartache get any better?How did you get through the every day stuff.I have trouble sleeping.I have not slept alone in 15 years.we were the best of friends and hung out together alot.How do you pick up the pieces?
2007-01-05 09:08:48 · 3 answers · asked by enlightened 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You pick up the pieces little by little. It can take a while, and it is not easy.
Getting through the everyday stuff can be very hard, focus on the task at hand. Try not to think about tomorrow, or next week. It's easier if you narrow your focus.
Concentrate on your kids, and what they need. It's OK for them to see you sad, but you don't want to over do it in front of them either. They lost a parent and need your support and love right now. When they are in bed, asleep, then you can let your emotions out.
It is OK to cry.
The heartache will get better. Though it seems ever present. Almost like a 10 ton brick on your chest. One day you will wake up and notice it is gone.
Don't overlook getting help, therapy and antidepressants can be very helpful in times like this.
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my partner too a few years ago, and it was agonizing. I can relate to what you are going through. Things will get better, but you need to go through the pain and the process of loss right now.
2007-01-05 09:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by Your Highness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it hurts alot no matter if the loss was a result of death or divorce it still feels the same to know we will never see that person again. many times if u are helping others less fortunate then yourself it kind of takes your mind off the hurt. just time will help the hurt of the loss, its something we have to go through, its a grieving process that is necessary in all losses, so we are able to move on and be somewhat happy again. would definitely seek some spiritual therapy and find hobbies, that will take up your time, and keep your mind on other things. grieve the loss, it takes awhile to get use to life, get a cat, as they aren't that much trouble, and give u so much love. good luck and god bless
2007-01-05 17:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iv been married for 15 years and can only imagine your pain but i no the loss of my mom was very painful she was young and my best friend what got me tru it was the lord jesus christ at first i was mad at god that was the werst time of my life we will go tru storms in our lifes no matter what but if you go tru it with jesus he will carry you tru it please dont harden your hart give it to god tell him your hart surrender to him and he will heal you i promise you its the truth the lord changed my life forever god will use people to speak to us all the time i belive thats why i happenend to sit down to the computer at this time i never do please read the bible matt 11. 28 i will keep you in prayer jesus loves you
2007-01-05 17:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by christian1974 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋