2007-01-05 08:47:08 · 24 answers · asked by sarahlou 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nobody can tell you what to do.
It'd be easy enough to say: dump him; Get rid of him; divorce him.
But the truth is, only you know what you can take and can't.
What was the circumstances of what happened?
How was your marriage at that stage?
How were you?
Maybe you will have learnt a lot from that awful experience.
Maybe it will have shown to both of you that you DO love each other; That whatever problem you have in your couple can be worked on.
But again, only you will know.
Can you ever trust him again?
Is it one time too many? Maybe he's done it before?
How do you feel about him now?
Do you still love him?
Does it hurt or are you rather annoyed it was YOUR mate?
Everybody would react differently to the situation; Everybody is different; think of what is at stake? Is it worth fighting for?
If you're asking, where so many would just walk out, it's because things are not that clearly cut.
So, take sometime to judge the situation. But whatever you do, do have a serious chat with your hubby.
You either don't care, or you DO.
Good luck.x
2007-01-05 09:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is still having a fling and he is married and you have kids - remind him you both have kids and for heavens sake to grow up! He is not a teenager anymore. I have a friend who had a fling and his wife really made him suffer by leaving him and turning te kids against him by brainwashing them. This is not the way forward. Personally I would work at the relationship and find out what caused him to have the fling and how far he took it. And then (this is not easy) turn over a new leaf at least for the sake of your kids. If he continues to do this whilst they are growing up - leave him once they are old enough to look after themselves.
If you don't have kids - leave him . . . or better still - why don't you have a fling? Of course, he needn't know, and that will be your secret!
2007-01-05 16:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by Aslan, reborn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Done it once he'll do it again with your mate or some 1 you don't know, don't give him another chance he will only end up hurting you more, if your husband can do that with your mate witch makes it worse in my book then he's not worth it, go find some 1 who will deserve you and wont do any thing to hurt you and while your there find a new mate your better off with out the pair of them good luck
2007-01-05 16:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your "mate" is not your mate, she wants to see you in pain. Get rid of her quickly or she will hurt you some more.
Find out from your husband whats going on in you all relationship for this to happen. If you find that he isn't an honest,respectful and trustworthy man, dump him. But if he is, and you can forgive and trust him again, then do so. Everybody make miss takes.
2007-01-05 17:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unbelievable!
One of your friends?
That is the ultimate betrayel in my opinion. The fact that he cheated is bad enough, but with one of your friends!!!!
You must be terribly in love with this knob to call it a fling and think that this is it. And its all ok now.
Its not!.... By any stretch of the imagination.
I'm sorry sweetheart, but the chances are that the fact that he has 'gotten away with it'. Will only make him more suseptible to trying it again.
It's your choice, but, be honest with yourself. Could you REALLY trust him again????
If you can, you need to have a serious talk with him, possibly with a cousellor. See if he agrees. If he flatly refuses, I think you may have trouble in the future with this one.
There are plenty of us guys out there who when thay have made a commitment to ONE woman. That's it, there are no more women!!
2007-01-05 16:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by Moorglademover 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i was with a partner for 3 yrs and he cheated on me with a mate i stayed with him and fell out with her, he said he would never do it again but he did at least 10 times, i didnt know about this i had started to trust him again when it all came out and i was gutted and felt stupid for givin him another chance it would of been better for me if i had left im the first time, theres a very good chance he would do it again you should follow your gut feeling and dont fight the gut feeling it will come back to haunt you but the 2nd time round it hurts more once a cheat always a cheat
2007-01-05 19:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by kaykess 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you love ur husband so much that you cant live without him then i should think to stay with him and 4giv n 4get and dich z mate
but if you dont love ur hushand then leave him and also dich ur mate
but even ifyou 4give n 4get or u divorce him u wil find it hard to trust him again. i would say the same thing 4 ur mate it wil be hard to find the trust you both had
and my advise is to dich both of them dont worry and Gudluk!
2007-01-05 17:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Gudluk! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would lose the "mate and a mate and let your husband know how hurt you are, but if you plan on staying make sure you don't bring it up everyday. he knows he did wrong.
2007-01-05 16:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do you still have love for him, Is he worth keeping.? then do what you need to do to keep him.
Think of the future, can you put this behind you?
Cut off your so called friend, don't let the ***** have him.
Life is a struggle, don't give up on what you want..good luck
2007-01-05 16:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The ultimate betrayal.
Decide what YOU want and make sure you get it.
It may mean hard times in the near future but good long-term prospects.
It may be easy in the short term but awful in the long.
PLAN AHEAD.
2007-01-05 16:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by Haydn 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋