Im thirteen and just found out i was pregnant. The only bad thing is i slept with my boyfriend and his best friend. I just told them both and my boyfriends best friend is supporting me even if it isnt his baby but they hate each other and my boyfriend is calling me yelling saying how much he hates me and the baby is a curse
2007-01-05 08:36:33 · 32 answers · asked by Lexie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
WOW thats a lot for a 13 year old.......
2007-01-05 08:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by KP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nevermind that you are thirteen and pregnant. It's done already and something you can not change or take back.
I am confused as to whether or not you know which man fathered your child. It is an unfortunate situation but common.
I want to help you without passing judgement. Honestly, I think you should pray. Deal with the boy who is being supportive and focus on remaining healthy. It is great that one of them ha stepped up to the plate. That's a reason to be happy, no? The world is not over and though you are young you can take care of your child. In fact it is your responsibility.
Ultimately, the choice you make to either keep it or give it up is yours. Don't let anyone force your hand because the consequences will be YOURS to deal with.
Your child is not a curse. Maybe being a mother will encourage you to look at life through "new" eyes and take your time.
Sex is a HUGE responsibility, which I think you understand now. It can bring pleasure and ALOT of pain. I am so sorry that you have to deal with all this while pregnant. Look to your family and God for support. I hope you and your child turn out ok.
God be with you and I'll pray that everything works itself out. Take care.
2007-01-05 12:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by Reina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems like to me you shouldn't be having sex at 13, but obviously no one can change that now. I won't give you a lot of grief about it because everyone else on this post already has, with good reason. Your main focus right now should be your health and the health of your baby. You should tell your parents (if they doesn't already know) and decided what kind decisions you are going to make about your future, and the future of your child. I sincerly hope you don't chose abortion, because that in my opinion is wrong. I hope you chose to let it go for adoption. My husband and I have been trying for quite some time to have a baby, but have been unsuccessful. Their are many people who want to provide a loving home for a child. You can (assuming your parents let you) keep the baby but then you have to ask yourself, a lot of questions like who the baby's dad is, will he be able to provide support (not just finacially), how will you support a child (considering your not even old enough to work), also the huge burden it will put on your parents. It's good that your bf's (or I guess ex-bf's) best friend is supporting (I don't know if I would use that word) you even if it isn't his, I don't know how old these boys are but if they are 13 or 14, they can't support themselves, you, or your baby. Your bf has a right to be angry, but children are gifts from God, no matter how they were made. Personally, if I were 13 and pregnant I would go ahead and have the baby and give it to a loving family who could support it and raise it. If you have questions or need to talk feel free to email me at Sunshine72188@yahoo.com
2007-01-05 08:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are your parents while all of this is going on? I think they both should be bull-whipped and charged with child negligence for letting you out the house without properly educating you.
And what has this world come to? I hope you plan on giving this baby up for adoption because if you decide to keep it, you will surely be contributing to the world of crime and violence through your child and contributing to our already strained government system. How would you possibly be able to provide this baby with the very best needs. And what if the child has special needs? Ever thought of that?
It will only get worse before it gets better. Why you might ask? Because you're just a child yourself and shouldn't be even thinking of sex at 13. How can you possibly even think of these two STUPID boys who (one of them) got you pregnant?
Sew your legs together and stay in school. Once you have the baby give it up for adoption. Learn from this and dump the two STUPID boys.
2007-01-05 09:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am sure you dont want to hear about what a mistake you made...I know u will hear enough of that.But Your gonna have to grow up fast now.If your boyfriend is your age, which I am assuming, He is probably scared as heck!So Your gonna have to give it some time.This is why you should not ever play around with sex.Things happen.Friends can be lost...children are born into hard situations.I dont mean to offend you at all, but your life is gonna be REAL hard from now on.I have 3 kids and Some times I have a REAL hard time and I am 30 !You need to worry about your future..Yes you can still have one!But it will take alot of work and determination on your part.But Please Please think of you and your baby.Stay in School.Work toward a future.Dont worry about those boys...and they are boys they arent men ...they cant take care of you...You gotta be strong.Good Luck.I will say a prayer for you.
2007-01-05 08:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by laurancarolina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First if you havent yet tell your mother. There are options with this pregnancy. Next you dont know what love is so dont worry there are other fish in the seas. At 13 you shouldnt be having sex you obviously are finding out only 1 of the consequenses of your actions. Let alone any possible diseases. You need to talk to an adult immediatly about this. If you are scarred which i am sure you are you should watch a woman giving birth. Also know that these boys were and are probably just using you because you would have sex with them.
2007-01-05 08:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by lilly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well yeah they are pissed off over the betrayal on all guilty parties. I hope you weren't expecting them to high-five each other over it. They may or may not patch things up. Most likely they won't return to being friends. Your boyfriend may work things out with you if it is his baby. Nevertheless you need to worry about yourself now and don't worry about what those two are doing, saying or thinking. Just that baby matters! Young men are very funny about sex and relationships anyway, Now you can throw in being scared sh*tless! I am sure you are too...just remember you have options and make your choices wisely! I hope your parents at least know by now too!
2007-01-05 08:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by In case you didnt know, I DO!LOL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jees I hope you are lying!
What a completely retarded thing to do. 13? Sex? WTF? How does your boyfriend even have a penetrating penis at that age?
If you were my daughter I would have the pregnancy terminated and you thrown into reform school but I guess your parents will just let you, the baby and whatever loser boy you choose live in the back bedroom of your doublewide.
This "question" is clearly a lie designed to get the kind of response it is getting. For this to be true in this day and age then it serves her right and the negative comments are not cruel at all but the smack upside the head this child needs.
2007-01-05 08:48:34 · answer #8 · answered by Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the mean comments get you down!! You did the right thing by telling the Truth to both boys!! There are a lot of older women who wouldn't. Unfortunately all you can do is give it time and let everything calm down. Good luck!! And for everyone leaving negative comments It's very cruel to try and hurt someone who is all ready in pain and is asking for your help!!!
2007-01-05 08:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by alaskagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, to be honest, you really dont have time to worry about who hates you and why they hate you, right now. Your main focus should be the little baby inside of you. Im not going to lecture you about right and wrong, but i will tell you to get over the fact that you mad some bad choices. When the baby gets here, have a dna test done to prove who the father is. Not to jump to conclusions, but if the Father of the baby doesnt want to cooperate, there is additional help out there for this purpose. Take BETTER care of yourself and your baby. Good luck and congrats on ur new bundle of joy.
2007-01-05 08:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by mzsouthernprincess 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Let me get this straight: You are 13 and just found out you are pregnant, but you think the "only bad thing" is that you don't know who the father is. I would say that's just one of the many terrible things wrong with this situation.
You don't see anything wrong with getting pregnant at 13, regardless of who the father is?
2007-01-05 08:46:07 · answer #11 · answered by EmLa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋