I am 33....Wife is 30....Had great perverted sex for a while then started haveing kids.....Sex is not fun anymore....I know that kids slow things down....But arent there a time when the kids calm down and the girl starts feeling better about herself after she loses her baby fat?....My sex life is going backward....She only wants it in missionary or some other boring position.....I am still in wild experamental mode and want to play....(nothing like with others or ways that would break our trust for each other).......I have heard that girls get the ibido back in their 30's....Is this somewhat true?... I hope it is....I am to young to give up haveing crazy sex with the girl I love......
2007-01-05 08:34:33 · 7 answers · asked by aubreytaegan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for the encouragement ricardo....I was afraid of that....
2007-01-05 08:40:37 · update #1
I did the romance thing and it got me sex, but I want it like we use to do it when we had no kids....I have talked to her about it...she likes it the way it is now....BOREING!
2007-01-05 08:43:05 · update #2
ok...NANZ....I am not whinning or b i t ching to her about it....I went along with it now for almost 2 years.....kids are under five....I do help her and very active with the kids....30%-70% with me doing 70% of the work
2007-01-05 08:47:50 · update #3
Well some of this depends on how many kids you have and how old the kids are. I think mid-30's is the norm but I hope you are talking with your wife about it and not whinning to her but just tell her what you just told us. See if you can negotiate. Sex her way one night, sex your way the next time.
ok aubreytaegan - then maybe you need a mini honeymoon to spice things up. This works for my husband and I when things start getting a little static. Suprise your wife with a get-away weekend, just the two of you. Find someone to watch the kids and go on a 1 or 2 night stay in some remote spot at a nice B&B or resort hotel but think about the details and plan ahead. You give her the romance she likes she'll want to make you happy in return. Good luck.
2007-01-05 08:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by CA DIVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to discuss this with your wife. She may not be awear you are feeling this way. Some women lose thier intrest because they are tired of housework, kids, jobs. I always thought when women reach thier 40's is when they hit thier sexual prime. But iam no expert. So tlalk to her....try a little romance!
Good Luck!
Aww I am sorry to hear that. I guess you are just going to have to adjust if she isnt willing too. Some women just lose intrest I dont get it either.
2007-01-05 08:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by Orleanslady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 33 and have the libido of a 16 year old boy. Not sure what's up with your wife. Maybe she's to stressed. Try taking some of the daily stress of her some - not sure - sorry.
2007-01-05 08:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by T C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Males peak at 18-21 and women in their 40s. That's what they used to say. if it is a kids issue, she needs to relax and get comfortable with that. Kiss her in front of your kids if she is really becoming a prude. Make her break the ice. last but not least, make her do it like you want!
2007-01-05 08:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't enjoy sex or even have a libido until I turned 38.
2007-01-05 08:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by moniquebell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont cheat please,it will eventually get back to how you want it after kids she probably doesnt feel to sexy try making her feel as sexy as possible when she gets all the confidence and feels sexy she will want to do stuff again try panty shopping take her to a sex toy shop watch porno if she likes that ,make her realise she is sexy and make it clear you have sexual needs and communicate
2007-01-05 10:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by blank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is over Buddy, I'm Sorry
2007-01-05 08:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by ricardo l 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋