Recently my mom discovered she wasn't happy with my dad. She wasn't getting enough out of life, so she cheated on him, but in my opinion, for good reason. I'm completely against the "Once a cheater always a cheater" statement. My dad of course was and still is FURIOUS and he's CONSTANTLY insulting my Mom. I really love and respect my mom much more than my dad, but I live with my Dad at the moment because my mom is living with her boyfriend in not the best conditions. It really hurts having to listen to my Dad insult and accuse my mom. He even lies to me about things like that we need to switch my bank account so he can deposit money into it, which he can whether or not his name is on my account. About 6 years ago, when I was very young, I had a lot of college savings and he stole about $4000 of it. I dont want to switch my account to his and I do NOT want to live with him. He's really scary to me sometimes and his girlfriend is just wacko. I just can't deal with this What do I do?
2007-01-05 08:31:40 · 9 answers · asked by Savvy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
*I'm not old enough to leave my household yet, I don't even think I'm old enough to legally choose which parent I want to live with, because doesn't that law begin once you're like 16 or something?*
2007-01-05 08:38:05 · update #1
Sorry. I am 14. Young I know, but, this isn't the first screwy thing that has gone on in my life. I've been through a bit, so please don't treat me as if I'm naieve. I don't necessarily think what my mom did was RIGHT, but it was acceptable. She didn't want to leave my dad right then, because his mother had just died..and I guess it may sound dumb to some people, but she really did have her reasons.
2007-01-05 08:46:20 · update #2
I would think that the courts would consider you old enough and take what you have to say in consideration and if your dad's home is just as unstable as your mom's home then maybe a relative would be best...if you have a relative near by that would be willing to take you in you should discuss it with them and then the both of you speak to your parents about it. No matter what happens though, if you end up having to stay with your dad, you love your mom that will never change no matter what he says about her and he is still your dad so you love him too dispite his flaws, learn to deal with him the way he is, you are obviously smart you know what makes sense and what doesn't don't let him take advantage of you four years will go by fast. but if you feel like you are in physical danger then definately talk with someone who has some authority.
2007-01-05 09:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by Forever_Young 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old you are - a younger age might complicate the situatiion. If you're 18, you don't have to switch your accounts and don't. Also tell your Dad that you find his continuous insulting of your mother unacceptable and he should stop in your presence. If you're underage, did the Court provide for child custody during the divorce? Isn't it amazing how adults can screw up kids lives? Good luck.
2007-01-05 08:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by jack w 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be helpful to know how old you are...it sounds like you are not in the best condition with your dad.
I know this probably doesn't sound cool, but I would talk to a guidance counselor or teacher you trust from school. They may be able to help you find a way to leave your dad's house. Maybe you can stay with another relative (grandparent, aunt, uncle?) or a close friend.
2007-01-05 08:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't give up on your Mom, be there for her. Do not let him get ahold of anymore of your money and also do not let him ruin the respect and love you have for your Mom. Can you go live with an Aunt or Grandma temporarily until your Mom gets her situation under control?
2007-01-05 08:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Feline05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let these CRAZY grown ups worry about the adult stuff. Just stay out of it and be a kid. And hun cheating is NEVER ok. I hope you haven't been led to believe that it is.
2007-01-05 08:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What the heck good reason(s) are there to cheat??
And your wrong, once a cheater, always a cheater.
2007-01-05 08:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you said you are about 16. the court should respect your wishes for placement. good luck.
2007-01-05 08:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So the mom did some banging? Is she hot?
2007-01-05 08:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well if you are old enough, just leave.
2007-01-05 08:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by star-e 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋