Wife admitted to having an emotional affair with this guy via msn messenger. He lives in another country so they have nevr met. Since 12/15 she has promised me no contact has been happening of any kind. She came home from a nihg tout with the girls. Tipsy. She asked me to come to bed. She hasn't initiated sex in years. She was very vocal and very into it. Something that has also been missing for years. She usually doesn't drink so maybe that had something to do with it. We have had our marital problems for the past 7 years or so. She has been im'ing this guy for the last 5. I finally told her to end it or divorce me and move to Canada to be with him. She ended it with him she says. I also e-mailed him and stated that I don't want him enabling the destruction of my family anymore. Wife was very depressed for 2 weeks .I never actually saw the cell phone just thouhgt i saw a blue light behind the bed. Am I being paranoid here?
2007-01-05 08:21:04 · 10 answers · asked by liquid_dwayneo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The thing is when I saw the light , I thought that may have been the cell phone. I didn't check under the bed until we were finished. Found nothing. But when I saw the light I had my wife scream out my name. Along with the other words coming out of her mouth in the throes of passion. I hoped that would disrupt the other guys "happy time" :)
2007-01-05 09:15:31 · update #1
Check the cell phone bill for the number at the time you were having sex, then you will know for sure.
2007-01-05 08:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife had an emotional affair for the last five years? I do not think that they have stopped talking but I do think she is hiding it. I have an emotional affair once and I am not proud of it but I know what it is like and it is quite possible she was recording you have sex to get him off but usually in affairs like this the other person doesn't want your spouse to be having sex with you at all. They want to have cyber sex/phone sex with them. If you were on speaker phone during this maybe it was a turn on for him to hear her being very into it and very verbal. Maybe even went as far as to say to him when you hear us think of it being you. The emotional affair is wrong and I find it very hard to believe in 2 weeks she has stopped. I hope that she has but you need to know that she does not want to leave you it is just she is so emotionally addicted to this guy. They may even think they are in love because of this addiction/connection. I find it very hard to believe you are being paranoid. I hope you get to the bottom of this...with my EA it last for over 4 years.
2007-01-05 08:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that she didn't have an open line on the cell, but was RECORDING with it instead? Most cell phones have a voice recording feature on it, and record long enough to cover sex.
I don't see how having someone outside listening would benefit her, but having it on record for future use might come in handy in some way later on. Who knows? You know you can't trust her. I'd check her phone and anything else you have that might sport that blue light you mentioned. Enable the voice recording feature on her cell and see if a blue light comes on.
2007-01-05 08:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you suspected this was going on why in the hell didn't you investigate? I couldn't have let something like that go and then worry about whether or not it even happened. This is the reason people shouldn't stay together after there has been cheating. It is so hard to regain trust. I am not saying it CAN'T be done, just that it is tough.
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2016-05-18 20:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you ever think what make her started affair with someone else when she is already married?, means something is missing she did not find in you. you confronted her, now she is trying her best to forget him, it will take a long , may be years but if she want to stay with you then she will make it. be patient! life is not very easy.
don't worry about the phone light, may be she is recording just to emuse or distract her when she will think about her affair.
2007-01-05 08:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by pretty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i would seriously be worried " and i dont think that your wife has been very honest to you in the past and and she is disrespecting you and and probably lieing to you behind your back what a crued woman" if i were you i would check the phone and the computer your self you shoundnt believe her because she is of course a liar wright"
i think she needs counseling and mabey you guys should even go to marriage counseling ?"
well your wife definitly needs to over time earn her trust and honesty back with you if she really wants to be with you like she says she does"
2007-01-05 08:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by mms13 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is very damaging to the family. It will take her a long time to get over this other guy.
2007-01-05 08:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's quite possible, you may never know. This does say, however, that you do not trust her. You guys should see a therapist.
2007-01-05 08:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't blame you at all for being paranoid! be real hard to ever trust her or anything she says anymore. so i know where your coming from on this one.
2007-01-05 08:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋