i am going homosexual being a Muslim so how do i stop?

Question

i am a very religious person and very much dedicated to my islam but i dont know somewere some how i couldnt stop myself i had sex with four mens in my life i just want to avoid it but i cant i need help .

Answer 1

You are going homosexual huh?
When did you make that decision and why?

Answer 2

Oh man, I can only imagine what you're going through. on the one hand you have discovered that you may be homosexual. On the other hand you belong to a religion that says a lot of things against homosexuality.

The thing you have to remember is this: Islam isn't the only religion that spreads hatred against homosexuals. Christianity and Judaism do the exact same thing. Despite all the all these things each of these religions will say to you (and there is a lot), there is nothing wrong with who you are. I repeat, there is nothing wrong with who you are. Men may love other men, women may love other women, men may love other women and women may love other men. None if these is more or less right that the other.

And guess what, you were born this way. Yup. You didn't choose this, no matter what anyone else may say.

The one thing that I think you need most is support from other Muslims who are also gay and lesbian (or who are simply tolerant). Since you are gay and a Muslim you must fell that you are the only person going through the same thing you are. But there are organizations that help support Muslims who are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered. Among many other things, they also offer alternative interpretations of the Koran that will counteract the spritual violence that gay Muslims suffer everyday. They can also offer asylum support, retreats and conferences, family support, support for those with HIV a social justice. Here are a few that I found on the Internet:

1) Al-Fathiha (http://www.al-fatiha.org/) Probably one of the biggest organizatios that cater to gay Muslims.

2)Imaan (http://www.imaan.org.uk/)

3) Queer Jihad (http://www.well.com/user/queerjhd/index.htm)

4) HOMAN (http://www.homanla.org/)

5) Persian Gay and Lesbian Organization (http://www.pglo.net/)

6) Salaam (http://www.salaamcanada.com/)

7)Gay Middle East (http://www.gaymiddleeast.com/)

I hope these all help and may Allah be with you always. :)

Answer 3

Sorry. You could be celibate, I guess, but if you have a serious sexual attraction to men, it'll probably be with you for the rest of your life.

Is that your fault? No, of course not. It's just the way we're built. And Allah, God, whatever you want to call It knows this as surely as I do.

Of course, Islam and Christianity and Judaism were invented before people knew anything about natural diversity in the human sexual response, or of the influence of genes and hormones over sexuality, so all the holy books just condemned homosexuality without putting much thought into it. I suppose it's just a natural, albeit regrettable, human tendency to fear anyone who is different.

Which of the following has more meaning for you: the all-encompassing love and mercy of Allah, or the pesky rules and regulations detailed in the Koran? Perhaps you can focus more on the former without becoming bogged down in the latter?

Many people have managed to reconcile their homosexuality with their religion, so I don't see why you couldn't do the same. The other options would be to deny yourself for the sake of a certain interpretation of your religion, or to abandon your religion altogether so you wouldn't have to feel like a hypocrite.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

I'm way straight,but I'm not prejudice,i think its just the way you are not your religion.dont be afraid obviously you like guys so stop fighting it.if you are close to someone that hates you for it get away there not worth your time it can be hard to exile family but if guys are what you want there not your family if they cant support you then they are not very good of a family.

Answer 5

no you cant help it , and dont be ashamed of it,

many religions officially deny sexuallity does ever exist, yet we all know it does,

take for example the catholic church, that dont allow priests to have sex, than they get so sexually frustrated and confuced that they abuse innocent boys in their care,
how bizarre is that,

you better just accept that you are gay, and get on with your life, interpret the muslim way of life so that it fits in with your sexuality, many have done that before you, and im sure it will happen again, religions are there as guidlines, not laws, guidlines can be changed and interpreted in many ways,

good luck,
and enjoy all the fun you surely will have, and dont feal guilty about it, it doesnt mean you are a weak person to take care of yourself and your own needs and pleasure as god/allah has given to all people,

you, as well as any straight person, deserves to have a happy and fullfilled life...

chiao for now,

Answer 6

The truth you may come to understand is that God/Allah makes us in His likeness and the way we are is the way we are. We can no more change our gayness as straight people can change the way they are. And yet we (the gays) are told how weak we are to give into what God/Allah has ordained we should be. Be who God/Allah wants you to be, tell the others to save their judgement of you until they have been judged.

Answer 7

I reckon the three people who gave this a thumbs down have their own problems.

This isn't an easy one by any means. But what you believe that your God made you, that you are. This is the starting point. Do not be ashamed of that. Don't believe those who suggest that you are the only one in this predicament. You're not. Beware also of those who interpret your religion for you, who try to give you a simplified version of it. Sometimes people like that can be much harsher than those who's teachings they claim to follow.

I wish you well; you have hard times ahead but you will find a way through.

Answer 8

You are not 'going' homosexual. You were always homosexual. Look for a support group, I know other Muslims in your situation.

Answer 9

No, you don't. You just need to come to terms with your true sexuality.

There's no reason why an LGBT person can't be religious/spiritual also. Anyone who tells you otherwise is a hypocrite, and going completely against their religion's teachings.

Answer 10

You don't need to stop, you just need to be a responsible Muslim. Check the Internet - there are several groups that are composed of Gay and Lesbian Muslims.

Answer 11

You can be any religion,if you are gay no God can change that..just live your life and be true with yourself...u can't change what you are!
Good luck!