My fiance and I have been not getting along for sometime now after the arrival of our baby and starting a new biz. He works really hard everyday. I stay at home with the baby do housework and the biz. Things have been really stressful. One night after I had left with the baby (after a big fight) I came later that eve to find out my fiance and his friend hired a stripper to come to our house. I walked in on the three of them 5 min after she got there - everyone still had clothes on - she was in the bathroom and came out in normal clothes. She was so Fugly. Stripper had a suitcase with her. Why?What?? Fiance was very drunk. He seemed deflated and sad when I asked him if this was what he was throwing his family away for. I'm sure the stripper was his loser friend's idea. He's like that. I have always trusted my fiance except for lately - he was being evasive and unhappy with me Was he just blowing off steam? Or was he going to have sex with the stripper? Would they both do the same girl?
2007-01-05 08:05:21 · 14 answers · asked by gail e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She was a stripper not a prostitute. Well, at least you didn't walk in on them all nekid.
Getting a stripper is not any worse than going to a strip club, and you don't get to fook them.
2007-01-05 08:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You BOTH have been working hard.
You BOTH are NEW PARENTS
NEW business.
One night had a fight, same night a stripper is in your home.
Now I'm starting to thing someone is being stupid.
I've known stripper and some of them are doing it to saving up money for med school, law school, teaching degree ...etc. Some of them move on and do just that and some don't. I've also escorted strippers to parties. THEY DON'T show up to a stranger's house WITHOUT AN ESCORT. If she was a stripper then she was also a friend of your fiance's buddy. She may of just come back from a gig or was getting ready to go to one.
Besides all that it sound like you are being just plain mean. His friend was doing what friends do "Cheer their friend up". The girl's who knows. Your story sounds short tempered, short sighted and self centered.
FYI, the first year or two of being a parent is really hard by its self then you add the work and new business and no sympathy that is just asking for problems.
2007-01-05 08:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? You get in a fight and leave with your baby and you come home to find a stripper in your house? Who cares if it was his friend's bright idea! This guy is garbage!!! At this point, even if he did not have sex with her, I would be so ******* steaming...and I am the most understanding person in my group of friends. That is not okay.
2007-01-05 08:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will say this. The 1st child can be a rough time. On one hand it is the first time either of you have had this type of responsibility. It is rough on both of you now. both of you went in thinking it was going to be better but a baby does not know the role to play. When I had my first, I had similar problems. My wife was tired. I was tired. We had the baby that demanded things and neither one of us thought the other did there share. We both thought this is what we wanted and did not know it was going to be like this. So we talked and realized what our problems were. My wife would plop the baby in my arms as soon as I got home from work. I had no time to unwind or relax. My wife felt like I was avoiding THEM and did not help enough. Financially, we never had enough to do what we really wanted to do (which was what she really wanted to do). Ultimately, we realized it was no longer about us but the baby and made the sacrifices we had to. My wife agreed to stop nagging me and giving me some time to unwind. I cut down on the happy hours and hanging with the boys. She calmed down on the materialistic stuff too.
Was he going to have sex with her, probably not. but a in the home stripper was at least going down on the crowd.
2007-01-05 08:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't Know your fiance But even some happily married guys like to go out with the boys and go to the strip club just as like a boys night out sort of thing.
I think its unlikely he would have had sex with her.
Especially if she was F-Ugly.
& if your sure the stripper was his loser friend's idea - Guess what ...
It probally was and he was probally just being a mate and trying to have a good time more for his mates sake then his.
Hope this helps
2007-01-05 08:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think they had the stripper come all the way over just to dance for them ? They could have went to a topless bar and seen it for the price of a few beers. It doesn't really matter if the idea was his friends because he went along with it and he had the stripper come to your house. I think that is lower than low. And yes, they would both sleep with her. Men are nasty dogs.
And dont listen to the loser above. Your not a nag.
2007-01-05 08:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ooh that's a tough one, and a hard call. You have every right to be hurt and upset with him AND his friend. I'd be raging angry that they brought this woman in to YOUR house where you and your child also reside. Completely NOT COOL.
The only one who knows whether or not he was going to 'be with' the stripper is your fiance. But, a stripper who makes house calls like that is probably not just going to dance for these guys. Did she at least have a body guard with her or anything? If so, she's probably more of a professional and would likely just be dancing and not hooking...but maybe the pimp waits outside...who knows. There's always a price for more services....just my opinion....
2007-01-05 08:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please take a few moments of your time to sit and discuss what has been going on, don't give up on your relationship. It is harder to keep a relationship than it is to just go your separate ways. You both need to be honest with each other. It probably was the friends idea and he was just too drunk to care either way, but no I don't think he was trying to trash his relationship with you. This is the way of a friend trying to help another friend cope. Bad idea. Good luck.
2007-01-05 08:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by Feline05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... and now you have a child that's more than likely not going to have a Dad in his life... There are other ways to deal with stress besides booze and strippers...
2007-01-05 08:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who the h e l l knows what would have happen...Only him and the stripper would know that.......if they were going to have sex with the stripper, I dont see why they would not do the same girl....and as far as she being "fulgy"...that does not matter so much, sex appeal is where it counts..
2007-01-05 08:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by aubreytaegan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋