your husband has a low self esteem.Things are not going the way he had planned and he thinks he is not good enough.You don't have to tell him this because no matter what you do to make him feel better he says you are no complaining but he knows that you are not please with him. How do you handle a man that constantly belittles himself and argues that you feel that way too even if you do not say it with words or action?
2007-01-05 07:59:08 · 14 answers · asked by stacyhw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get therapy. He's highly manipulative and unhealthy. He needs therapy to stop it, and you need therapy to learn why you're tolerating it, or found it attractive. Self esteem is the responsibility of the SELF, not another person's problem to fix.
2007-01-05 08:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that even though he has low self a steam he states those things to you because his is trying to have you constantly remind him, I have low self esteem and go threw the same thing i always am catching myself asking the same question over and over again knowing i will get the same answer any way i think it is a re assurance thing just to make sure nothing has changed in 1 day to the next, I will tell you wlabutrin works the best it helps more than you know.
2007-01-05 16:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by KEL971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that the only thing you don't like about him is that he puts himself down, but that's enough. Tell him that you hate this aspect of his personality so much that you can not tolerate it any longer. Tell him that he must get into counseling and overcome this personality defect, and that he must begin immediately and that you are not going to take no for an answer.
2007-01-05 16:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Low self esteem can only be addressed by the person suffering it. There is little you can do except to give reassurance and refocus his attention on the things he is good at. If he needs constant reassurance is it possible he's also depressed? In my opinion he needs to speak to a counsellor.
2007-01-05 16:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of saying, honey you're great....tell him to do something about it if he is so unhappy. Your here to support him, but you're not going to keep listening to it if he's not actually doing something about it. A lot of people's lives aren't going 'the way they planned' and that's life. You have to be able to pick yourself up and try again. Things can only get so low before they start to go up again. He has to want it though.
2007-01-05 16:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hazmat tongs... sorry just a bad joke. This wouldn't be the end of the world. Help him find a good counsler. This can make a tremndous difference in his life and then his spouse's life.
Good luck.
2007-01-05 16:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he always been this way? Uhhhhgggg! Nothing more unattractive, in a aman or a woman, then sombody with low self esteem.
2007-01-05 16:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by hidemi_jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have sex with him over and over. 2 or 3 times a night for several weeks.
2007-01-05 16:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by mixer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand by him and listen to him.
Until he is willing to accept compliments and help from others, you can only be patient.
2007-01-05 16:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by Fergi the Great 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use tough love to toughen him up. Call him on his own misery and maybe he will snap out of it.
2007-01-05 16:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by love_n_hate84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋