Ahh lately life has just sucked. I'm a very quiet guy who had an amazing girl friend for 18 months. When i left for college we had no idea how hard it would be. We broke up on good terms and she keeps telling me she still has hope but we both need to get used to our surroundings and regain identity. I loved being with her and I still can't stop thinking about her. I havn't talked to her over the phone or in person in over a month. I guess I can admitt I was totally too dependent on her. We spent everywaking moment together and both of us gave up our friends to be with each other. Very unhealthy. When I left for school we were both on our own and almost friendless. Being away from home on my own has really been hard for me. I'm very quiet and constantly over analize everything I say. I never used to be this unhappy. I loved living at home cuz it was a good place to come back to after a day at school. Now I'm on my own away from family and I feel lost and lonely. How can I improve
2007-01-05 07:40:02 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have a very supportive family. My parents have been extremely supportive in this tough time for me. I'm just trying to figure out how a quiet guy like me can be happy out on his own. Since I broke with my girl friend I feel lost. I feel like I have no idea who I am or what I want in life. Everything has been black and white in life. I just want some color back. Maybe I'll get back with my girlfriend some time later on...who knows..summer....but if that's even possible I need to figure out who I am. I need to be a happy. I feel like I dont know how to talk to people. I feel like I'm lacking personality.....I'm not trying to be a winer..I haven't ever been this way. I've always been quiet and shy but I've never experienced this anxiety. I don't know what to do. I'm just looking for suggestions and help. Thanks for reading all this crap.
2007-01-05 07:41:39 · update #1
Maybe you can casually date other girls to get your social life going again. Go to dating websites like match.com or yahoo personals. I'm shy too and it's hard to make friends and meet people so I can relate. Try to do things that you enjoy, maybe volunteer your time somewhere, just try to keep busy. Good luck, things will get better.
2007-01-05 07:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry to hear about what you are going through. You have to know that no oe else can make you happy, you are the only one that can do that. You are so powerful even though you may not realize that right now. You can bring yourself out of this blue mood that you are in right now. I know that it is tough because i have been there, but once I realized how powerful I was in changing my own moods and making myself happy I was able to pull myself out of it, and I will never go back there again. Alot of it has to do with the thoughts that you are thinking. If you can visualize yourself happy instead of thinking how sad you are and keep doing this for a few days it starts to become automatic. get out and do things you enjoy doing and have fun. Nothing is ever as bad as it seems. And There is a reason that everything happens. Good luck and hang in there just remember how valuable and unique you are, especially to yourself!
2007-01-05 15:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by giamc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting out more. Go meet some new friends. Being by yourself all the time could make anyone unhappy. Find some activities or clubs to join. You could meet someone new if your ex doesn't want to get together yet. . :) And don't forget to smile.
Man, I am so cheesey.
2007-01-05 15:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by closetmeateater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get off from shool visit her
2007-01-05 15:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by jonny boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋