But i know nothing can happen while he is still married.We work together so its not like i can avoid him.He is flirting with me and i flirt back a little.Today he pinned me down while tickling me and gave me a kiss.I am 23 and he is 24 yrs old is it wrong to tell him he has to drop the wife if he wants anything from me?
2007-01-05 07:21:26 · 34 answers · asked by Rachel K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I never intended to end up attracted to him and wont do anything unless he gets divorced.
2007-01-05 07:25:03 · update #1
All i am doing at the moment is messing with his head and teasing a little.
2007-01-05 07:29:32 · update #2
What you are doing is leading him on. This EXACTLY why the mistress often gets equal blame when an affair comes in to play. YOU are being slutty and putting on some kind of innocent act.
No one here buys it.
2007-01-05 07:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with SILLYKIMM...GROW UP ...UR A WHORE AND A HOME WRECKER...FIND A SINGLE MAN ....
I too am 23 and if my husband were behaving like that with a woman that he works with I would not only divorce him but I would be at your doorstep ready to kick your butt for knowingly flirting and messing around with a married man. have you heard "if you play with fire you are bound to get burnt" ??? You, my dear, are playing with fire and it's only a matter of time before you are engulfed in flames.
I suggest you end this now. Adultery is a very serious and hurtful thing for all involved...especially if the married couple has kids. Do not be "the other woman" because that is what you are becoming. More then likely you are presenting yourself as a cheap piece of strange azz and he's looking for an easy lay...you are it.....your constant flirting with him makes you look that way. Most men don't leave their wives...they just screw around on the side and hope to not get caught. The right thing to do is to cut out the flirting and tell his wife what he's doing.
2007-01-06 11:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up. I have a daughter that is close to your age and let me tell you what. If that was her man and she found out there would be no place that you could hide that she wouldn't find you . Not to mention the tons of friends that she has that would also be alerted of you, the woman sometimes forgives her man but you will forever be on the sh-t list and never have peace . I suggest that you get your own life and remember that some day you will be the woman at home while some little air headed twit will be trying to figure out how to steal your man away from you!
2007-01-05 07:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rachel, it may not be a great idea to advise him to drop the wife just because he got naughty one day with you at work. The best way is to try and ignore him a little bit and behave as though you aren't too keen. He'll certainly want to know why. Then you can probably tell him you aren't very comfortable since he's married and leave it at that. That's a good enough a hint if he gets it.
2007-01-05 07:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he is willing to cheat on his wife then he is not committed to her or his wedding vows. So let's look into a possible future here. ...
Let's say that she finds out and she divorces him and he "falls in your lap". Remember the phrase HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF. Let's fast-forward to your marriage. Do you really believe that he would be completely loyal to you and not flirt with (or pin and tickle) other ladies when you are not around? Not likely. He most likely is not able to remain faithful to any women.
If you help him to destroy his marriage, you are already setting yourself up for a painful, failed relationship with him.
I am an incredible tickler and I would be mare than happy to tickle you all you like (and I would love to have you tickle me, too!). Stick with single men - don't participate in the destruction of a marriage.
Just my advice.
2007-01-05 12:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u do by chance get him to leave her, won't u have even a little bit of a guilty conscience? don't u think if u become his wife, that in a few years u will be in her shoes, and someone else will be asking him to leave u? karma comes to all of us who does a wrong to others. u are telling him to leave his wife, so u are the homewrecker. what if u were the wife, would u want someone telling him to leave u? u should distance yourself from him, as he belongs to someone else, as u are going to go into a relationship, maybe a marriage that caused another person's grief and devastation. but u will not know how it feels till u are on the receiving end of it, and u love someone and they leave u, and believe me it will happen to u without a doubt.
2007-01-05 07:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides the obvious that he is married and it would be absolutely WRONG - an affair or continued flirtation on company time could end up with one or both of you losing your jobs. If he won't let you alone after you tell him you are not interested - talk to your supervisor. There is nothing good that can come of this for anyone involved. .
2007-01-05 07:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he first started flirting with you, that was a sign right there--and when you flirted back, that was indication you was wanting it as much as he did.
yes it's wrong for you to give him that ultimatum...
You are going to do as you wish, but he's your co-worker, and this can get a little nasty and blow up in your face. Then what will you do? you still have to work with him, and you wouldn't want to be known as the office whore.
if he drags your name around the office, do not holla' sexual harassment because of the tickling scene....
STOP right now, this can get ugly....
2007-01-05 07:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rachel,I believe that your intentions are pure but what you need to think about is if for him is so easy to flirt with you having a young wife at home what makes you think that if he does leave hes wife he wont do the same to you?be smart and don't be played
2007-01-05 07:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong for you to even ask him to drop his life and start over again.
It's also wrong for him to pin you down and kiss you. That's called sexual harassment. It's grounds for both dismissal and legal charges against him.
You can and should ignore him. You might not be able to completely avoid him, but don't every act in anything but a completely professional manner anywhere around him.
You're too young to remember this, but do a web search for Monica Lewinsky. It will open your eyes and your head.
2007-01-05 07:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes its wrong to tell him that....in other words you are saying "hey if you are willing to completely destroy your wife you and I can date"....why dont you back off, dont encourage him....and stop competing for his attention. In the long run, even if he did divorce her for you it would only be a matter of time befor he runs into the next one that he wants to flirt with. Since marriage and commitment seem to mean nothing to either of you how long do you think the two of you would make it.
2007-01-05 07:27:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋