I have a sister who has went against everything we were taught as children. It all started when she turned 20. She started sleeping around, smoking, and using drugs. Recently she entered into a relationship and again started the premarital sex, staying at his house over nite, and then became pregnant. This guy that she is with, abused her one nite and she had him arrested. 4 Weeks later she lost the baby. (she droped charges). And not to mention she has a terrible heatlh condition that she's not taking care of which could cause a stroke. After misscarring the dr advised her not to get pregnant until she gets her health under control. Today they are moving into a trailor and she is applying for public assistance-she won't work...We were not raised like that and i feel what she's doing is complety wrong! My family thinks i'm wrong and just go and talk to her. She's giving our family name a bad reputation! I am the total opposite of her. I am married, i work! Am i wrong?
2007-01-05 07:16:41 · 11 answers · asked by jess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She is your sister and I understand that you are worried about her. But you have to remember we each have to learn from our own mistakes. What she needs from is love. But do talk to her let her know that you do love her and will always be there for her and although you don't agree with the things she is doing it is her life.She is the one who has to deal with the consquences. But all you can do at this point is just try to support her and show her that unconditional love that you have for her... Good Luck
2007-01-05 07:23:29 · answer #1 · answered by Sherman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you being disapointed in her. It sounds like she has decided to do things the hard way. Unfortunately you can't change a person, they have to want to change. You are her sister so I think you need to love her despite her poor choices. I wouldn't be so worried about the reputation, I'd be more concerned about my sisters well being and safety. Try talking to her if you can especially about her health problem. Let her know that you care about her and no matter what you will be there for her although you don't agree with some of the decisions she's made.Thats what sisters should do for each other.
2007-01-05 15:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I no exactly how you feel. My sister was the same way about 15 years ago. would't listen to our parents and went out all the time! she went againest all of our families rules and morrels. She kept this act up almost to get attention and the more she did things I bet you were more angry at her action? they seem to know this but my sister had a rude awakining and my father had a heart attack but is doing well today but I took this tragity to calm her down. She also was on assistance and not working wanting to just party. maybe it is just a phase she is in but sometime you have to take action of your own as these days drugs and booze are greater and more addictive then they used to be, I really wish you good luck and step in she is destroying your parents as well as well as probably a great family reputation.
2007-01-05 15:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by bellkleo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you wrong? Yes and no. You were taught values when you were growing up and you retained them. Not everyone gets to keep what they've learned. Physical pleasures are overwhelming and take control of some. Many of these people learn the hard way and will come around at one point or another.
Do your best to help your sister without giving in to her wants and focus on helping her NEEDS.
I used to be the black sheep of my family but I learned the hard way now I'm not so bad.
2007-01-05 15:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notwithstanding the education you both received, as adults we each make our own decisions based on factors that often have nothing to do with our upbringing. We are all born totally different despite the similarities we are subjected to as we develop.
You need to realize that she has chosen a path to follow. There is not much you can do to make her see your point of view. You need not think she is giving you and your family a bad reputation. Who cares what others think!
As a sibling you have been true to your obligation to try setting her straight. Now that your attempts have failed there is nothing you can do but grin and bear it. Sounds cruel, I know, but it is the reality of things.
2007-01-05 15:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't say that your sister is "giving your family name a bad reputation." she's your sister and you're not here to critisize her. since she's an adult now she has the right to follow whatever path in life she wishes to take. if i were you i'd be there for her and have a LOOONNNNGGG conversation with her. tell her to get some help with her health condition becuz you care about her and you want her to be okay. if you can suggest going with her to the doctor. tell her to listen to the doctor and not try to get pregnant until it's safe to do so. good luck...
2007-01-05 20:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that was crazy. I have a little sister named Jess, and an older sister that has had every single one of the things you have listed above happen to her...
You definetly aren't wrong.. Me and my family have kinda given up on my sister since she doesn't accept our aide.
2007-01-05 15:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by My Name Is Ray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think she's giving your family a bad rep? Every family has a black sheep, she is just yours. She sounds like she is suffering from low self esteem, perhaps look into how you could help raise her self esteem so she wants to improve her life.
2007-01-05 15:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not wrong the truth is that she hasn't got someone to understand her, guide her and things will be better soon
2007-01-05 15:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by coolgirldina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. You're not wrong. You need to slap some sense into your sister.
2007-01-05 15:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by amylr620 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋