My fiance and I have been not getting along for a bit now after the arrival of our baby and starting a new biz. He works really hard everyday. I stay at home with the baby and work on the biz for us. Things have been really stressful. One night after I had left with the baby (after a big fight) I came later that eve to find out my fiance and his friend hired a stripper to come to our house. I walked in on the three of them - everyone had clothes on. She was so Fugly. Stripper had a suitcase with her. What?? Fiance was very drunk. He seemed resigned and sad when I asked him if this was what he was throwing his family away for. I'm sure the stripper was his loser friend's idea. He's like that. I have always trusted my fiance except for lately - he was being evasive and unhappy with me and I caught him in a lie about talking to a girl from his past (which turned out to be innocent (I talked to her).) Was he just blowing off steam? Or was he going to have sex with the stripper? What's up?
2007-01-05 06:55:55 · 8 answers · asked by gail e 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
The suitecase was just for clothes and props. Men like to blow off steam with looking at naked girls. It sounds bad but the majority of men are like that. I doubt he would of had sex with the stripper though; she was ugly and you really never do it unless its the last resort of a despirite virgin man. What I suggest is that you get some sexy lingire (spelling sucks i know) and put on a little strip show for you bf. Spice up the relationship.
2007-01-05 07:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by n_m_young 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are obviously conflicted with your significant other. You clearly love him and want to get along with him, but for some reason or another you have issue with his recent behavior. No-one here can tell you what is right or what to do, because there is clearly more to tell than what you have written here.
If this "stripper" really doubles as a sex servant, then she's a prostitute, not a stripper. Either way, your fiance was obviously having problems if he was drunk and fighting with you. Instead of focusing on the past and trying to rake him over the coals for something he may or may not have done, I think it's time for both of you to sit down and have a grown-up talk.
What do you see for your future? Your baby's? Do you want fighting, melodramatic exits, drunkness, and sex workers to be part of your child's life? What does your husband want? Once you get some answers to these questions, you can get a better idea of what to do.
For straight talk, I recommend that you stop making excuses for your fiance and start building a life, with or without him. Your child needs a stable home and a good environment. That means cooling off and emotional management from you, better choices (in friends and actions) from your husband, and at least one grown-up between the two of you to make damned sure that you can make a good home for your kid.
Make some ground rules that you both can live with, and respect each other. At any rate, this kind of garbage isn't any way to live.
2007-01-05 15:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by christophermalachite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would look at everything going on in your relationship with him the stripper crap is so immature and degrading to you as a women is that a good quality to have in a man you want to keep or love i personally would leave him and get child support it is signs of cheating and will probley lead up to it eventually.. a lap dance is the same as jacking him off. its cheating and it will cheat you out of the life you and your child deserve i would really do some soul searching and do it honestly.and advice if the girl he talked to was said to be Innocent well re think that she is probley lying about "just talking" also. be strong this is emotional abuse on his part.
2007-01-05 22:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by squawwitoutamule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should first resolve your problems with your husband because your baby needs both supporting parents, i would advise you two to see a marrage counsellor, then going to a sex therapist, to spice up things in the sex department, which explains why there was a stripper in the house....he might not feel comfortable with the fights with you, and all of a sudden sex. so i hope i cleared some stuff up, best of luck!!
2007-01-05 15:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get away from that pig!
2007-01-05 22:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by kherome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with cg hawk.
2007-01-05 15:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by amazon 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dont know for sure but my quess would be if she offered it he would not have turned it down. most men think with their penis
2007-01-05 15:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by cg.hawk 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
wow, sorry hun this guy is a loser dump him...
2007-01-05 15:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by loreescachter 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋