or is it true affairs are always destructive and have dire consequences? We always hear how bad affairs are along with the people who engage in them but is that always true?
I'm reading a book about women who had affairs. The book's focus is on women who had "good affairs" and were happy they did. I just want to know if there are actual people who can attest to that. Thanks
2007-01-05 06:47:32 · 19 answers · asked by Angie@ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am male, 57 years old, and have been having affairs for the last thirty years. Several you know, and I have never been caught, and yes there was a lot to be said about some of them. I did divorce once, but it was not directly related to an affair. The only problem with this life style dear, is that you like it and it is hard to stop. It should not be this way, but life is not fair, and you end up getting hurt lots of times in these things. If you can control your emotions and can get away with it, go for it.
2007-01-05 07:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by hog rock 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As an ex-married woman whose husband had an affair, I will say: they are ALWAYS destructive with dire consequences. I am sorry, but anyone who can do this to another person, even if they don't get caught & wreck a marriage, still has to look at themselves in the mirror everyday and know they are a low-life.
Get real.
2007-01-05 06:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by mustanglynnie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I had an affair with a married man when I before I was dating the man I married now. I didn't think much about it but now I'm married to his wife's brother, for about a year now. The secret hasn't come out yet but I know when it does it's going to ruin a lot of lives.
2007-01-05 06:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by MARJ213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone resorts to an affair, there must be something wrong in that marriage. And I don't believe in a successful affair. If you believe cheating and deception is acceptable well then so is Karma. My friends ex thought she had a successful affair but he found out 7 years later and divorced her when she needed him most...KARMA baby!
2007-01-05 06:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by mvas800 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's sad-- you're lying to yourself and allowing yourself to be screwed by a man who places no value on marriages vows and that's a "success"? Just because no one finds out doesn't mean you don't have to live with being a liar and a cheater. How these women can look in the mirror is beyond me.
How shallow to think that being a lying cheat, sneaking around and breaking vows makes some women "happy"- I guess they have so little self-esteem or standards that getting laid outside their marriage is all they can do to "feel good" about themselves.
2007-01-05 06:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i've had an affair and i've known other women who have had affairs and there is no such thing as a successful affair. people get miss lead and people get hurt and relationships get destroyed, trust is lost and you can not have a successful relationship if you don't have trust.
2007-01-05 06:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A good affair? Even if you never get caught,its still not good. The other person is still being hurt,they just dont know. Maybe there have been ppl who cheated and realized where they belong(back home) and it made their marriage stronger,but I wouldnt count on it. If you feel the need to be a slutt,stay single and be a slutt,youll have no problems getting it,but running around like an ally cat will destroy your marriage and worse,ruin the stable,happy home your kids had because you couldnt keep your legs shut. (maybe not you,but whoever)
2007-01-05 06:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
There is no such thing as a successful affair. Someone always gets hurt whether they admit to it or not.
2007-01-05 07:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by ~MIMI~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh its easy to cheat
Youll remember all the lies 10-20 years later.
Youll bump into that person with your children and maybe your ex-wife or new wife and theyll emabrass the heck out of you in FRONT of everybody and make you feel really stupid for a few minutes of fun lying,cheating being dishonest
2007-01-05 06:51:45 · answer #9 · answered by god knows and sees else Yahoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just sad.
You might think it was successful, but if the guilt from it doesn't weigh on your soul, you never had a soul.
I would think THAT is a dire consequence, living with the guilt forever.
2007-01-05 07:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋