Ok lets say from the start of the relationship you knew that your girlfriend has a sexual arousal disorder(means never gets aroused but interested in sex but don't have any sexual feelings), you fall in love with her and ladeda.
Would you marry her? What would you do if you can't have sex with her but she's willing to be physically intimate?
Would you help her in getting treatment for a healthy sex life or leave her for someone better?
2007-01-05 06:37:08 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm a real guy and this is an honest opinion.
I'd want to know where this 'disorder' came from and I'd probably view it as part of my mission in life to help my true love overcome it. Think of the potential upside: if she acquired the ability to have strong sexual feelings because of MY help, what an ego boost for me!
If she really was my true love, of course I wouldn't leave her and yes, I'd marry her. Love is about self-sacrifice, after all. A man who isn't willing to sacrifice himself for his beloved shouldn't be thinking marriage anyway.
2007-01-05 06:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Any honest and decent man would stick with the girl for life - unless there were other reasons to leave, and good ones! Love and marriage is not about sex. There are plenty of other ways for a married couple to satisfy those basic urges and needs besides infidelity or divorce. I mean, if a man uses that as an excuse for leaving - then what happens when he finds a woman and gets her pregnant? There's time there that she'd not be able to or wanting to have sex, am I right?
Love is supposed to be forever - and so is marriage. So you stick by the person through bad or good and do whatever it takes to try and find a common ground, which could include treatment for the condition.
2007-01-05 06:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people with disorders develop such issues due to changes in medications, I would say as long as you talk about the issue together and come to some kind of understanding why it is happening then you may be able to work out a solution.
Possibly, cuddling may be enough intimacy for her while sex may be for him. So a middle ground can be reached where she may be willing to have sex, or perform and act that is enough for the male to be satisified intimily. While sex is important is is not the only important thing in a relationship. If she is depressed then simply masterbating to erotic material, for the male, may be the answer as long as it is dicussed between the two partners.
2007-01-05 07:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by WAYMAN29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well In my opinion, if you love her, you will stick by her no matter what. If she has a problem gettin aroused, maybe you should encourage her to seek help for it.
If you truly love her, marry her! If you leave her, you will just make her feel less of a woman and shatter her self esteem. There has to be a good reason for her problems, you just need to talk about it with a specialist to see if there is a way or treatment for her.
2007-01-05 07:57:58 · answer #4 · answered by lilsis3070 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling in love is a ten fold problem and foremost there must be a physical attraction; or if you will, a lusting desire for each other. The feeling must be mutual - this is not to say that you could not fall in love with someone with out the physical part of love; but, I really don't think it would last. Now there is the other part of love which is one way; the true love you may have for someone but that would be a hollow love if you receive unemotional physical love with the other person. I truly believe that when you find the right person that physical side of love will be there. As for me - I do not believe I could be in love (true love) with someone who did not have a physical desire and therefore; leave, giving her a chance to find that person who will push her buttons.
2007-01-05 06:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that say sex isn't important in a relationship dont know what they are talking about, Sex is very important in a relationship, it's the one thing that you 2 as a couple only share together, it creates a bond unlike anyone else you share your time with. It is VERY important. So I would have to say no to your question, but if I fell in love with you first & then you developed this disorder later, I whould not leave you.
2007-01-05 06:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by SoccerBoi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's deep, if she is willing to participate anyway would be cool, but if she cant be satisfied then, that would take away from the relationship. I honestly do not think that i am mature enough to be with somebody that is going through somethin like that, i would try to help her out and get help for her but if nothing works, i would have to find somebody else. Sex is not everything but it is a major thing. I would really, really have to be in love with her to marry her anyway. I have not felt that type of love yet so i dont know.
-detroitblacksnake aka misteremazin
2007-01-05 07:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by misteremazin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is always a very important part of a relationship, but what is more important is the love and caring of two hearts. When two people love and car for each other it is unconditional love, there may be challenges and obstacle along the way but would always work through them together. I would marry her and help work through the this challenge together. Because in the end love always comes firs in the relationship!
2007-01-05 06:48:32 · answer #8 · answered by Barry S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar situation where my now ex use to have sex with me for only 3 minutes every month if I was lucky now I'm with a women who sex with me 3 times a day or more.
Is very important the sexual part I would just move on like I did.
Seek help that is not normal and it may be a psychological issue.
Where U rape or molested?
2007-01-05 06:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by PR 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love should win out in the end. Sure, I love sex, but there is more ways to skin a cat than one. Also, no one should be judged for something they can not control. So, if I loved a girl who had that problem, I would stay with her and marry her and live happily ever after.
Also, I would help her in finding anything possible to help her with her condition. That is, if she wanted help. If she didn't I'd love her for her.
2007-01-05 06:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by Mindchser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋