They are always happy to hear from me when I call but they never initiate anything on their own. I know they are busy since their children are small and my child is almost a grown up but it seems to me that we make time for things (or people) that are important to us.
Agree or Disagree?
2007-01-05 06:25:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
yes..and i also have 'FRIENDS'
who ONLY want to be FRIENDS
ON THEIR TERMS AND THEIR TERMS ALONE...... +++;0
2007-01-05 06:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little of both. I am the mother of small children so know how hard it is to keep in touch with everone but that doesn't mean I don't love my friends. It's hard for us to make friends too since we don't let anyone babysit except my sister therefor we can't go out to adul places ya know. I think you should give a subtle hint about it and give them another chance.
2007-01-05 14:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. As we get older, people get more involved in their own lives, especially when kids are involved. Being I'm single and most of my friends are married or in serious relationships, I very rarely hear from anybody. But then again, if we happen to run into each other somewhere, they're always happy as hell to see me. I know exactly how you feel.
2007-01-05 14:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Agree
2007-01-05 14:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Chewie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True. we do make time for things that are important to us. though some people may find it difficult to do so with kids and this can be exusable. but as we can see not always this is the case ... there're friends who simply dont care... they choose not to just bcog they dont want to. the truth is they simply dont bother. they want to treat "FRIENDS" according to their TERMS, their PRINCIPLES n CONVENIENCE ALONE. what kind of callous attitude is this ?? worse yet some FRIENDS do things purposely only to satisfy their own needs...for ages they hold on to their arrogant n stubborn attitude and every realtionship falls below that line. there is one rule for you but another rule for them. does this attitude shows any "respect" for a friend or anyone ?? this may sound harsh but truth is always bitter and that's why we ignore it.
Any relationship is a two way street. thats how it works, flourishes and survives. this is how God has meant things to be and thats definitely for a reason. when we feel unloved,uncared, used, abused or disrespected, it takes a toll on our self esteem and self worth. bcog these are negative emotions, caused by deep emotional wounds and so not good for our well being. if a person doesn't care for your sentiments now and give you the "respect" you deserve is he/she going to do so in the future ?? are you sure its not going to cause you more emotional scar ?? where you may find yourself literally alone in a realtionship always doin your part as well as theirs ?? think about it. as a self respectful person is this what you really want from a relationship ??is this how you want to be treated in long run ? all i can say is if not now at least at some point its going to hurt badly.
Pride and a self centred attitude are enemy of ANY relationship....they simply dont go together hand in hand. so if you dont want to get hurt watch out for these warning signs.
2007-01-06 06:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by SpiderQbeck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same kind of problem - my son is small and he is on a schedule but my best friend always complains that I never call her. The road works both ways - she never calls me either. So its like we wait to see who calls first. It is really annoying.
2007-01-05 14:29:03 · answer #6 · answered by Tink 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that when people have small children they hardly have time for anything. Remember when your kid was little? I bet your kids was the more important then anyone else.
2007-01-05 14:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by CAROLYN B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your important sure, but maybe just a little too distant. you'll have to initiate friendly apearances until they start calling or asking to come over. maybe you could also start hanging out with them while they are with the kids.
Remember........... if the kids love ya, then there is no reason you shouldn't be over often!
2007-01-05 14:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree.
2007-01-05 14:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by SLUG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and it irritates the heck out of me. I make plans with one friend, she calls and is like oh and gives some lame excuse so I stopped trying
2007-01-05 14:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by BoTToms UP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm like that....I just get so involved in my day-to-day life that I honestly forget to call people. I still love talking to them though!
2007-01-05 14:27:33 · answer #11 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋