How should I inform my mother, who is ill, about my dad, who is cheating on her?

Question

I saw him intimately talking to our house help.
I saw him intimate with one of his assistants.
My mother doesn't believe that he can cheat!

Answer 1

No. Mind your own business. And stop spying.

Answer 2

Wow, what a problem.
As a daughter, I could understand wanting her to be aware. But you must also prepare yourself to accept whatever her response is. Sometimes people block things out even if it is happening right before their eyes. It is a way of coping with a situation.

I once had someone tell me that my partner was cheating. I did not have enough proof to make the decision to leave him though. I eventually decided to give him the benefit of the doubt, but to keep a close eye on him. We talked and I explained that I would rather he tell me he wanted out than to drag me trough the drama of an affiar. I promised him the same courtsey would be paid to him, if I ever decided I wanted someone else.

Even if you decide to tell her exactly what you saw, and she is not convinced eventually it will come out. What people fail to realize is that things come out on their own, it may take time but sonner or later it will rear it's ugly head and everyone will know the truth.

Also, your mother may not be able to handle this information coming from her daughter, or in her condition. What ever you decide to do, let love be your motivation and not revenge. Use tact and kindness with your mother.

I hope your situation gets better.

Answer 3

This may not be a suitable occasion to tell your mother (since she is presently sick, it might worsen things and engender depression). You might want to exercise more patience but I would encourage you to have a little talk with Dad. Don't confront him directly about his behavior, however you can ask him if he really loves mom.

Answer 4

If you want to talk to anyone talk to your dad. He's the one with the problem and if you confront him about it it could force him to own up to whats bothering him and making him cheat.

Answer 5

if your mom is seriously ill telling her will do nothing but make her feel worse maybe you should get away with your dad and tell him what you know. I just do not feel it is good to have your mom get hurt take care ken j

Answer 6

How ill is your mom? If she is going to die soon, probably better off with her staying happy.

I would call dad out on it though after she is gone.

Answer 7

Didn't you watch Scrubs last night? People that are ill won't get better when you break their heart. Tell her after, I am sure she will understand.

Answer 8

I don't think telling her is the right thing to do. She is already ill, why give her a broken herart too?

Answer 9

tell pops to back off and behave him self. If ma is ill, why make the agoney worse

Answer 10

let it go untill mom gets better not much u can do but to cause more pain right now but i would let him know that u know and would like some respect about this