my son who doesnt see his dad anymore has not been invited to his gran.s wedding who he see's regular,because his gran is afraid she will upset his dad.... is it just me or have i got the right to be completley annoyed. afterall, all the other gran kids and step gran kids will be there, just not my 10 year old son, how am i going to tell him he isnt invited to his grans wedding. im seriously considering telling them all to get to hell.... but then my kid would lose out... what would you do?
2007-01-05 06:11:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my son doesnt see his dad because his dad has a new life now, and has no space in it for my son, forgets he has responsibility and has done for 7 years now.
2007-01-05 06:24:26 · update #1
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2007-01-05 06:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by pshawfocus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y don't u take ur son out the day of the wedding. take him somewhere fun and have a great time with him. if he happen to mention the wedding thing to u while having fun which he won't probably remember, just tell him that u wanted to spend some quality time with him that y u did not take him to the wedding. I'm sure he will buy it. and later in life when he is older u can tell him the whole truth if u want to. but right now don't tell him because he will feel bad, left out, hurt, and he could even hate the grans.
2007-01-05 06:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is such a hard one. id feel well annoyed but you are in such an awkward position. you're right not to do anything too rash, coz your son will miss out altogether. cant the gran see how much it will hurt your son ( her grandson) by doing this? and i dont know you darlin, so i cant really comment on why your son doesnt see his dad, but more often than not its probably not the childs decision to stop seeing a parent, so why is the gran punishing your little boy? if i were you, id make an excuse to your son about the reason you cant go, and do something really fun with him on her wedding day. failing that you could always have a few, gatecrash and then tell them what you really think of them..................lol
2007-01-05 06:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say about him i would cut yourself OFF completely and tell your son the facts. then after the grans wedding make a point of telling her how she hurts her grandson and let her remorse if that's possible and your in a prime position to say get lost all of you forever! my son and i have a new life away from you (how insensitive can people be) Good Luck
2007-01-05 06:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before sorting out the problem with your son going to the grans wedding I think you new to sort out the relationship between your son and his dad. obviously i dont know the reason why he does not see him so my judgment may not be correct but i think every child should be able to see both parents whenver they need to. it doesnt sound like your the one stopping the access its sounds as though you need to tackle the dad first then everything else should fall into place. i dont think you're being unreasonable about your child being able to go the wedding, he should be allowed if all his cousins are going. Good luck xx
2007-01-05 06:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by Sianny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would speak with the gran personally. i would explain that her grandson is upset with her decision. his father should be mature enough to handle to presence of his son at a family wedding. there are so many people at a wedding that he wouldn't have to deal with him one on one. and yes, you have every right to be upset. if arrangemets can't be made for your son to enjoy the union of his grans marriage, then you need to protect your son. tell them all to go to hell. your sons emotions shouldn't be put on stop just to appease the inmaturity of a group of adults who should know better. your son knows that you love him... he'll trust your judgement.
2007-01-05 06:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by sickofmakinthemgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a single Mom and kinda been there, I would make it a positive thing by YOU doing something special with your son that day. If they don't want to include them b/c they are afraid of upsetting a "man" (I doubt he is one...sorry had to add that..) your son is better off with You and your family and people that love him.
don't lower yourself or your standards about your son. He is number one. Do something with him....forget them...
Good Luck....been there...done that ...the kids only get hurt in the end and that's most disgusting...
:(
sending you hugs..
2007-01-05 06:19:35 · answer #7 · answered by Cinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your son should be able to go... but it really is his grans choice... you cant force her into letting him go, but you can talk to her about it... also talk to the father, after all he may not mind anyway.... dont start an argument with them, it could rip the relationship between the family even further apart.... just remember that if your son isnt able to go, although he would be missing out in that respect, he could be spending the day out bonding with his terrific mum... good luck and i hope he gets to the church on time :)
2007-01-05 06:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a word with your sons grandmother....let her know how upset he would be....after all he is only a child....his father is supposed to be an adult....if he thinks anything of his son he would be happy to spend some time with him and his side of the family...good luck...xx
2007-01-05 06:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by maz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would feel extremely cross tell her hes her grandson too and has a right to be there, why should he lose out because she doesnt want to upset a grown man
2007-01-05 06:14:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI
I WOULD TELL YOUR SON THE SITUTATION ASK HIM HOW HE FEELS AND THEN LET HIM STATE HOW HE FEELS TO HIS GRAN!
2007-01-05 06:18:02 · answer #11 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋