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Question

I'm in my 8th month of pregnancy and people say i don't look like i'm really 8 months,that really bothers me alot..is rude to me,I think is because i'm 5'4 an weigh 130,evrthing's ok with my pregnancy i feel great and i love being pregnant,has this happened to anybody before or are you going through this?I hate rude people!Please answer i really want to hear some advice.

Answer 1

Man...I hate when people give little "comments" for no reason. Who cares if you look smaller or bigger than anyone else!? Why do they need to comment on it? I got the opposite comments..."WOW you're HUGE!...Are you having TWINS?" It was really annoying. And the worst part is...they'll do the same thing with your BABY..."Wow. She has big thighs. Look at her torso, it's so long..and her legs are so stubby." Do they really think these are HELPFUL comments? Geesh..drives me crazy.

So..I guess my best advice (though weak) would be to either ignore it (since it will happen a lot) or come up with a snappy come-back. I guess it depends on your personality. Good luck when dealing with the rude people. Unfortunatly, they're everywhere you go and most of the time, they have no idea they are being rude.

Answer 2

People say the dumbest things to pregnant women. They also think they can just go up to any woman who's pregnant and touch her belly. I hated that. The baby gains the most weight the last month, so you will most likely see your belly get even larger in the next few weeks. If not, then you'll probably have a small baby. Consider yourself lucky since you are petite. Congratulations and best wishes for a healthy delivery and baby.

Answer 3

If your doctor is saying that the baby is fine and you're measuring fine, don't worry about. For me, it's the other way around. I don't look at myself as being all that big. I'm 35 weeks and have only gained about 20 lbs. All the weight went to my belly. The things I hear most frequently when I go to the mall or anywhere else are, "You're HUUUUUUUUGE!" or "Are you sure you're not having twins?"

Sometimes I respond, "Yeah, I know I look like I'm delivering tomorrow, huh?" When I say that, people don't know how to respond. LOL

I've learned to just brush it off. My doctor said I'm not that big, I'm measuring fine and the baby seems to be healthy so far. So, why should I worry about what others are saying?

I'd rather hear that I'm small than big. A lot of my friends gained about 50-60 lbs during pregnancy and when you're pregnant, people think it gives them the "ok" to let you know that they think you're huge. That's what I think is rude.

So please, don't take what they say to heart. At least you're not "HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGE!!!!"

Congrats and good luck!

Answer 4

People seem to think they have a right to say stuff when you are expecting. My last two kids weighed over 10 pounds (two separate pregnancies)when they were born...I was huge! People I had never met told me I was having twins and when I said no I wasn't, they would argue with me and tell me about their friend of a friend who had twins and the babies were hiding behind each other so they couldn't see them on the ultrasound, etc. It was annoying. Best to just ignore comments and be happy enjoy your pregnancy and look forward to your baby. If they get too bad, tell them your doctor is the expert so that is who you take advice from! Good luck!

Answer 5

You should take that as a compliment. I heard the same thing all the time. I am a doctor and I wear scrubbs to work. Many patients had no idea I was pregnant until I told them. I took this as a compliment b/c it meant that they didn't think I looked like the fat cow I felt like. I understand what you mean though about wanting to look pregnant. I wanted my belly to show more early on and was always looking to tell people that I was pregnant...since they could not tell. Be thankful that you are petite and have maintained your figure. Many girls HATE girls like us. Good luck with your pregnancy!!!

Answer 6

I was very small with all 3 of my pregnancies. People used to say that I looked like I swallowed a basketball when I was 9 months pregnant. Its fine, people are just surprised at how some people can stay so small during pregnancy.

Answer 7

I didn't start showing until I was like 6 months pregnant and when I was like 9 months people thought I was like 5-6 months pregnant. I didn't really find it rude, more of a compliment. I was all baby, looking at me from the back you couldn't even tell I was pregnant..

Answer 8

Well, I dont think they mean it to be rude--it sounds more like a compliment- although I know that you want to look pregnant, I feel the same way-- I cant wait to get bigger and bigger.... as long as you are eating enough and everything is fine, if you have a long torso you may not show as much as someone else because it is more spread (just a guess), im sure you look adorable. Good luck with everything.

Answer 9

I TOTALLY agree with you its very rude to comment on how you look during pregnancy. What's wrong with these people? Dear Amy recently ran a column in which she said the best thing to say to a pregnant woman is to simply ask her how she is feeling, which is a nice thing to do.

Commenting on a woman's size (big or small) just makes pregnant women feel bad. People shouldn't say "you are REALLY showing now" (I got this several times lately) or "you look tired" or "you look (too big/too small)."

The only response I can think of is to say "Well, my obstetrician says I am doing great -- and that everything is on track with my pregnancy -- but thanks for your concern," and then turn on your heel and walk away.

PS I don't think these people mean any harm or mean to insult you, though. They are just ignorant and insensitive and don't realize they are hurting your feelings.

Answer 10

They probably blew up like balloons in their pregnancies like lots of women (me included) do, but they don't realize that they are being rude. Or maybe they do realize, but they are just jealous of your figure. Either way, don't worry about it, as long as baby's healthy it doesn't matter what you look like or how pregnant other people think you are. Next time someone's rude to you like that say "I know, I really look great don't I?" Maybe that will shut them up.