I am an almost 34 yr old woman who has a son who is almost 9 years old.For most of my life i have been career oriented as my main priority especially after my divorce after only two years.I have dated around and would probably be described as a maneater because i was in never into emotions.Recently being the last three years i begun to become attracted to a fellow co-worker and friend.I have known him since college when i was just starting and he was going for his masters.We spend a lot of time together even do traveling for work together.He has started to flirt with me and even get touchie feelie in some cases.I think we are developing a strong attraction for each other.He is even opening up to me about his feelings since his wife is depressed and moody all the time because she cant seem to get pregnant after 15 yrs of marriage.Am i misreading signals?
2007-01-05 05:50:59 · 16 answers · asked by Jessica H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Would i be wrong to tell him nothing can happen while he is still married?
2007-01-05 05:59:06 · update #1
run away as far as you can from this man,you are both vulnerable.he might just be using his wifes moodiness as alibi to make you feel closer to him for sympathy.most wives are moody anyway !
2007-01-05 06:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by dra shelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may just be bored with your life as it is. I myself have been with the same man for 17 years, since I was 13! I have went down that road...I can tell you the grass isn't always greener on the other side. There is a lot of stress that comes along with cheating. It makes you have serious doubts about your marriage and even your children. It could make you so paranoid that you can't even leave the house without worrying what evidence your husband could come across while you are gone. It just made me such a nervous wreck! I had to stop. I regret it still and hate the person I was then...Don't do it!
2016-05-23 06:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get involved with a married man. To begin with, how would you feel if you were in her shoes. Would you like it if some woman would do that to you? Morally it is wrong and unprofessional on your part. You are not only going to ruin a long friendship but possibly tarnish your professional image. It is great that he can talk to you about his personal problems but be careful. "Most" men use those lines to get you into bed. Be a friend and listen to him but do not cross that line and become his mistress. Men do not leave their wives for the mistress. They use both women.
You sound like a good woman who has worked hard to achieve what she has in the profession. Do no jeapordize that. Good Luck
2007-01-05 06:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gross. What if you were his wife and he was acting this way with someone else? Get out of there. Be straight, be firm, and have him get back to you when he's divorced. His wife is having problems and all he can think of is you? How charming. Sounds like a guy I'd want to hook up with--NOT. Best of luck. Hope you run far and fast and find a nice, non-married, unselfish man.
2007-01-05 05:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I donot think you should get into this relationship.There are other men available. Donot add to the pain of the couple.What would you do if you were the wife.Keeping in mind that you have gone thru it,i.e divorce. Imagine being the source of breaking up this 15 year old marriage.. I am having problems with my husband ( who is in love with another one after 13yrs of marriage and I stayed to see him thru poverty, now cancer and diabetics) and I tell you that you cannot build happiness by making another one sad. SAVE YOURSELF THE KARMA !!!!
2007-01-05 05:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by LLL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry babe I'll stop shakin' it in front of you.
Sorry. Seriously, he is attempting to cheat on his wife. You are not misreading his signals. Show some character and tell him to go pay attention to his wife. If he doesn't call HR about sexual harrassment. The two of you have no business getting intimate.
2007-01-05 05:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. The only thing is he's a co-worker and that isn't just a good thing to get into any relationship with someone at work.
If it's just a sexual attraction, it might not be a bad idea to go for it one time, and get it over with - so to speak. But to answer your question, they sure are clear signals to get active with you. Good luck.
2007-01-05 05:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Life takes funny turns. You're in the middle of a funny turn. If you steer wrong, you will end up in a ditch. However, funny turns can be fun, if you keep things in perspective.
2007-01-05 06:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from that man!! He is taken! Would you want some woman moving in on your territory! For crying out loud! I just can't understand you women! Do unto others as you would have them do unto you!
2007-01-05 05:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes lets make his wife more depressed. Maybe she will kill herself and you two can be together in your touchy feely way without regret.
Please
2007-01-05 06:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by NoAnswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋