we have been married for 2 years and my 9 year old son from my previous marriage loves him more than his own disfunctional father, sometimes I think my son is well adjusted, and sometimes he acts as if he's just not happy, he wanted my husband to adopt him, and my husband is so happy, we are now in the process, of adoption, but my son is a constant worrier about things, I have OCD and I had him tested and they said that he didnt have it, that maybe he just has alot on his mind. On the other hand, for 7 years. it was just me and my son, and of course, I spoiled him, and my husband believes in discipline, which my son is not really used to because me and him never had any issues, but as he gets older, more "boy" things are going on, (doing things he knows better than to do, smart remarks etc. ) and yes every now and then he needs to be grounded, how do I handle this head to head between them, and keep my sanity too???
2007-01-05 05:50:27 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is getting to that age of independance where he wants to figure out "who he is". He also has this new figure in his life, he has to see how far he can push the envelope. You two as a couple need to decide what's the best way to decipline your son when he gets out of line. Everyone needs to have an understanding - your husband needs to remember that he is still your child, your son needs to realize your husband is to be respected and obeyed, and you need to be the one to make sure the other doesn't cross the line.
Be strong and you two will raise a wonderful son together who will respect you both in the end.
2007-01-05 06:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are alot of books on this subject at www.amazon.com.
Search on 'divorce' and 'children'
2007-01-05 15:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋