Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years. We are thinking about marriage... we have never lived together, nor will we until we are married, do you think its to early to get married?
2007-01-05 05:46:50 · 13 answers · asked by eguth23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no time limit, so don't think that you two should get married just because you've been together for 2 years. Do you really, truly do love each other? Would you be able to live without him? Not living together before marriage is kind of a n old fashioned thing. Back in the day, it was okay to not live together before marriage because the divorce rate was extremely low. Nowadays, people are getting divorced for the most shameful reasons, and not being able to live with one another is one of those reasons. Moving in together is a huge step. You're combining years of each of your families under one roof, and adapting to each others ways. That's where compromise comes in. That is why you absolutely have to love each other, no matter what. You may realize that you don't enjoy each others living styles, but you'll HAVE to deal with it because you'll be married. If you live together before, you'll be able to find out if you can deal with each other 24/7. Living together brings out all kinds of arguments, and it also teaches you how to deal with it together. So if you think you know how your boyfriend lives his day to day ordeals at home and are accustomed to his morals, and vice versa, then go for it. If you want to get to know him better, which there is plenty of room for, then wait a little while. When you feel like you really truly know each other, is when marriage is wonderful. Good luck.
2007-01-05 06:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sonia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you both have jobs or are you otherwise both self-supporting? Are you both reasonably mature? Do you share at least somewhat similar religious, moral, and financial values? Are you both responsible adults? Do you both "fight fairly" when you have an argument? Do you agree on whether or not to have children and what kinds of discipline are acceptable and not? Do each of you set goals and actively work toward bettering yourselves? Do each of you behave as though you care about the feelings of the other one? If the answers to all these questions are yes, then it is not too early to get married. If the answer to one or more questions is no, then you still have something to work out before you get married.
2007-01-05 05:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The timing is not too early. I have heard people say that you should know within the first year of dating if you want to be together forever.
Do what is in your heart.
2007-01-05 05:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I met in August and were married in November. We have a 3 yr old and one on the way. It is different for everyone. Some people know that is who they want to spend their lives with sooner than others. You have to do what is right for you.
2007-01-05 05:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by askywalkersmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think before people get married they should each prove they are responsible. The only way I can figure to do this is have each person save $10K before getting married. Saving money is hard to do, but if you can do it that means you are not only mature, but financially mature. Too many people get married and try to dump their debt problems on the other person to fix them.
That's my two cents.
2007-01-05 06:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming from someone who met and married her husband (we're going on 11 yrs) within 4 months,I'm not a big believr in time requirements or limits. Love is love,flat out...it takes work,communication,trust and a REALationship. If you guys have that between you- you're good to go.
2007-01-05 05:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by justsayin... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask the question then the answer is yes its to early to get married
2007-01-05 05:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It really depends on you. Do you feel mature enough to make it work? Is he mature enough to make it work? If so have a happy life together
2007-01-05 05:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you two can tell...............sometimes we wait years and we never get to know each other. Sometimes we meet and fall in love and feel like getting married.........so, it is up to you. Good luck.
2007-01-05 05:50:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are both ready for that step then yes. If you have doubts, you are not ready to be married.
2007-01-05 05:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by alig 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋