Shortly after I decided against having an abortion my boyfriend left me. He said that he still loved me but didn't want to be a father. A few months later we started seeing each other again and things seemed to be getting better. He said that he still had feelings for me but that he didnt love me anymore, which is hard to believe judging by the way he is around me. He even told a friend of ours that he still loved me and then when i asked him he denied it. I can't help but wonder if he's trying to fool himself, if he maybe thinks that making me believe he doesnt love me will make it easier for him to leave. Despite the fact he said he didn't love me anymore he always seemed to want to be close to me and missed me while i was on holiday. He even kept a conversation going about baby names, but then he left again. Saying he didnt want me or the baby. He's leaving to join the marines in January and I hope the time away will make him realise what he's going to lose. Will he change his mind?
2007-01-05 05:34:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sad to say I don't think so. He can tell his friends anything he wants to make himself look good in their eyes, sorry it goes that way sometimes. Pay close attention to what he tells you, go by that, not what he tells everyone else.
What seems to be on his mind, as I perceive it, is that you refused; though he never brought it up - avoiding a confrontation is the first thing that comes to my mind, to get the abortion. You decided to keep the baby challenging him to step up to the plate - good on you! This isn't a matter of killing a baby just to please a man. Sounds like he was looking for the easy way out.
Will he change his mind? Honestly I don't know, he may, it's up in the air, yet what you should do is conduct your life as is and if he steps up to the plate like a true man welcome him with opened arms, and if he doesn't then he did you a favor.
2007-01-05 08:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible, it can be he's scared and young and doesn't know what to do. Concentrate on you and the baby right now. Make eachother happy. If he decides to be in the picture just as a father or a complete family, time will tell. Just don't make it easy for him to walk all over you. Be strong, always let him be with his child, but don't let him use u. Good luck, you will be so happy when that little one arrives.
2007-01-05 13:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by bdgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to tell you this but joining any branch of the service doesn't make you miss the girl you left at home, as a matter of fact it shows you that you can find a million other women out there and in some countries they even treat American men like gods...the problem isn't that he doesn't love you, the problem is that he's not ready to be tied down and he feels like that's what you're doing by having a child...sorry but that's just how we think when we're young and still want to experience the world...
2007-01-05 13:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by bravo95165 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he didn't want to be a father he should have done something to avoid that happening... it's a little too late for that now. I realise that you love him but it sounds to me like he's playing games and doesn't know what the hell he wants. It would be a shame for you to wait around for him just to end up getting hurt. Ultimately it's up to you. He may figure out that he wants to be with you and the child and stay with you for good but from how it sounds he's likely to be around for awhile and then take off again... wants to have his cake and eat it too. Do what's best for you and the baby, that's all that matters. Good Luck
2007-01-05 13:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by Wiked 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's thinking "Oh my God, I'm going to be a dad! How the hell did I let this happen! I'm not ready! I've got too much to do! Too much to live for! Who in their right mind would let ME be a father? How much is this going to cost me? Is she really the one? This wasn't how I planned my future! Darn she looks hot even with that big belly! How big are those puppies going to get??? What the heck am I thinking?"
2007-01-05 13:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by jbtascam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your attracted to the bad boys and not the nice open the door for you mam type of guy, hes a bad dude and that's what you gotta expect your gonna get bad **** but that's what makes some women get there rocks off cause i was the same way when i was younger
2007-01-05 13:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes scared but likes to enjoy the moment when hes around you. he really doesnt want to become a father because hes insecure
2007-01-05 13:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by yekisdhu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nevermind I thought you said you had an abortion.
2007-01-05 13:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by Dre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋