One of the biggest misconceptions in this country is that marriage is all about love. It's not. The very notion that love had anything whatsoever to do with marriage is actually a very recent idea. Marriage is for convenience and child rearing, not love. Granted, you should certainly love the person you're going to marry, but simply loving someone isn't a reason to marry them.
2007-01-05 05:34:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think you have to love someone to marry them. Also, if you believe marriage is only about child rearing, then straights that can't conceive and old ladies past menopause shouldn't be allowed to get or stay married! That's crazy talk!
Gays mostly want the right to get married so that we can get health insurance with our partners, see them if they're in the hospital, and be able to inherit the houses we build together when they die. I don't think that's so much to ask for really.
2007-01-05 06:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love is very important in marriage because it is needed to grow, live and raise a family. Love, respect, fidelity, love and care of the children that they bring into this world. Having shared values and doing what the best that you can for each other in any particular circumstance. Love is necessary. Lust is not. Infatuation is not love. Lust and infatuation is selfish. Love is for the other person. In a marriage or in any human relationship, We need to Love God More than any person and then we can love with a lasting love that will stand the test of time. Time will test you. Health will fail, looks will grow old, children will be disobedient and try your patience to the point of consuming every thought. Your own parents will age and become dependent on you. Their parents will age and become dependent on you.
The love that is necessary is rarely the reason couple get married.
God Bless You, ;-)
2007-01-05 14:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by CHS 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are so right!
The love that people get married for is usually not the love that they will need to last in marriage. They have to grow in true love which is not selfish or sexual. A sexual relationship is important. However, it is not a substitute for the love that needs to grow to stay together and raise the children that their love brought into their families. When the storms of life come, only sacrificial love will survive.
LOVE Is Patient
Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. (NRSV, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8)
Yes, You must love the person you are going to marry.
When th honeymoon is over the marriage begins.
For Richer and for Poorer, in Sickness and in Health, In Good times and in Bad, For the rest of your life until one of you dies.
(you can not kill them)
2007-01-05 14:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by Deena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This statement is, or rather was true. A large number of cultures have traditions of arranged marriages. Some have discarded this tradition, but others still utilize it. With arranged marriages, the couple is often told that love will come in time. This is a traditional viewpoint however. In western society we have moved beyond the arranged marriage to marriage through love and it has been this way for many years, making the author's statement true but outdated.
2007-01-05 13:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by puhpaul 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What's interesting about that statement is that nothing in it has any dependency on the gender of the people involved. All of the things given as reasons or consequences of marriage in that statement, or in the other answers here, has anything to do with the gender or gender comparison of the participants. Lust-transcending love, selflessness, child-rearing, even (if you insist) loving God, are not dependent on gender or gender combination.
2007-01-05 15:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by romulusnr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as the opening statement about "This Country" is absolutely wrong.
The definition of marriage and family in THIS COUNTRY is and has always been ever changing.
Maybe with the first settlers it was simply meant as a form or populating and survival. But as more and more settlers came and our population grew, the defining reasons behind marraige and/or family changed as our needs as a nation changed.
Since our needs as a nation continue to change, so should the definition of and reasons for marriage.
2007-01-05 13:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by DEATH 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Marriage has existed for years. True it was a barganing chip for land, title, and other such things...not so much about love and family when it first started... But I believe that marriage is a union between two people (sexual status doesn't matter....and it really shouldn't) its to show someone how much you mean to them, and you want to be with them for a very long time. Its a very romantic idea.
2007-01-05 14:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by Bevin M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oooh, Hallmark is going to put out a contract on you before you ruin their Valentine's Day business!!!
What about people who don't want or can't have kids? Why do they get married? For the tax benefits? For the health insurance? To keep their mothers from harping at them?
I'd go rethink your argument. Or at least take a bigger statistical sample first before you draw your conclusions.
2007-01-05 13:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Very true
But we are not allowed to get married in this group.
I just want to protect myself and my partner with the laws of my country. Should my parents have the rights to take away what myself and my partner have? Should the government? Should a hospital?
2007-01-05 13:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by azgraywolf143 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
hehehe... I remember reading that.
Although atleast part of it is based in fact it does not change my current view. Just because something happened a certain way or for a certain reason 20, 100 or 1000 years ago, does not mean that it needs to be done the same way or for the same reason today.
2007-01-05 13:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋