Needs to find himself? doesnt know? cant see a way forward?
Men and space?
this refers to my ex who used to love me and now is being weird.. he keeps having panic attacks and seems messed up. sometimes are men enuine when they become distant and need space.. and is it normal for them not to be able to say i love you or think about relationships when they are at this point? i have never seen this before . he says he feels safe at work and at home , before i messed things up and he says he doesnt trust me yet and is scared of me. i wnat him to get over this so fast so i can make amends and show him how good we can be help. because he is saying he cant see us together at the moment it isnt clear does this mean ive deffintel;y lost him? i love him i dont want to 'move on'
2007-01-05 05:28:31 · 7 answers · asked by lola f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Was there a rift in the relationship by one or the other being unfaithful ?
Usually this type of thing happens for a reason.
If so, try and ask for his forgiveness, or let him know you have forgiven him for whatever caused the rift.
2007-01-05 05:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are times when a man really just needs some space and some time to think. Especially if he is suffering from panic attacks and anxiety. He probably feels like he just can't handle anything else right now. Give him the space he needs, but let him know that you are there for him when he needs you and see how it goes. If he's worth it to you then it's worth the wait.
2007-01-05 13:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Treasury is always a *********.. When you live a pretty sane but perhaps shallow existence, making amends by the person who committed the act of treachery is almost impossible to heal in the short term. If you are sincere in your repentance keep trying and set yourself up for a long recovery period by your 'sensitive' other. Sensitive people hurt much more easily than do others, that is because they usually are quick to put their trust in the other partner...this trust becomes "sacred" to them and when you break that trust it becomes 'sacrilegious', unmentionable and extremely difficult to deal with. Good luck with this and seek some religious counseling which can usually help...call in the "GOD" squad.
2007-01-05 13:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by oldtimer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it hurts but you need to move on. this man is telling you that he doesn't want to be with you. so often, we as women, only hear what we want to hear and fool ourselves into thinking that we can change someone. don't do this to yourself! listen to what he is telling you: he doesn't trust you. he feels safe at home. you've messed things up. he's afraid of you. i don't believe that you're that bad and you shouldn't, either. it sounds like he has already moved on and i think that you should, too. it always hurts to lose someone that you love. but would you really be happy with a guy who feels this type of way about you? there are plenty of fish in the sea...and there is someone out there that is capable of loving you for all that you are. good luck!
2007-01-05 13:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by iPROMISE[♥] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek professional help. Back off him. Let him think. He may need medicine to deal with the depression/panic. Give him the space he needs to sort this out. He needs time to sort and organize all this and decide whether he wants to trust you again and go on. He needs to decide if it is worth it. Yes, it is normal. I can't tell you whether it will work out or not, but I can tell you to let him have the time to figure this out for himself.
2007-01-05 13:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well .. if I had to guess ... I would say .. lay off the Big Macs and hit the gym ...
2007-01-05 13:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by phooey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just not that into you,,,wait,,,is that a title of a book,,,yeah,,i think so
2007-01-05 13:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by kandcforfun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋