My best friend was killed in Iraq, he had filed for a divorce but didn't have a chance to sign the last paper. His "Wife" was over here sleeping with his really good friend. His wife and friend also posted pictures of themselves making out, on the internet. My friend died on the 10th of dec. he had checked his myspace that day. So I know he saw the pictures. The divorce was thrown out cause he had one last paper to sign. Now she is running around saying she's his widow, and all this stuff. She is getting all of his things. His family is completly upset with her. Should I take physical actions????? I'm really holding myself back at this point.
2007-01-05 05:26:42 · 19 answers · asked by B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mind your own business. What she does has nothing to do with you.
2007-01-05 05:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
First off I want to say I am sorry for the loss of your friend, secondly you do not want to do any physical things because you will be the one in jail and she will still be out roaming the streets and she will win yet again. However you can definitely call a lawyer and find what your and the family's legal right is. I am not sure why the divorce was thrown out as it should have been a (still process) and under his circumstances being in Iraq and all there should have been no reason for this and if most papers were signed then the judge should have known that he did want a divorce or he wouldn't have signed most papers. But this is something you will need to find out through the court and legal system,and I believe there is a hot-line or web site that is free where you can get legal advice from a lawyer instantly..Google it and see what comes up, Good luck in your search and once again I am truly sorry for your loss.Take Care!
2007-01-05 05:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can contact a lawyer in the states to start the procdures. However, military law is funny when it comes to deployed members serving at war time. If you were to file for divorce he can get you for abandoment. I know that this is a hard time for the both of you but try to keep talking and don't decide on anything until he returns home safe. The issues that you are having could be a side affect of the war that your husband is fighting. We can't possibly know what they are going through over there. While it is hard for us here without them it is 10x harder for them over there. Try to bite your tongue ( I know that it is hard) let him rant and rave he could be upset about something totally different but can't bring himself to talk about it with you. So instead of him dealing with the real problem he creates problems with you because they are safer. Good luck to you I hope that everything works out.
2016-05-23 06:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your friend died in Iraq.
But do not take physical action. He did have her down as his beneficiary for his life insurance. And since the divorce wasn't final.....well unfortunately she will get all his possessions. Perhaps her family should take her to court. They need to prove she was committing adultery.
A lot of military marriages end because of adultery. And that's a sad fact.
I hope your friend haunts her until she goes nuts.
2007-01-05 05:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by julygirl75038 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, don't make it worse. Legally, she has the right to prance around claiming widow status even though morally she is one screwed up wench. What really sucks....she'll probably get a monthly check from the government for being a widow and us taxpayers get to help foot the bill.
2007-01-05 05:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I am really sorry to hear about your loss...
No you should not take physical actions, i know it is hard cause i would be wanting to do the same thing you are wanting to do!!!
As far as her being his widow...she is nothen more than a lying skanky, WHORE!! Who in the end will get whats coming to her!!! So just sit back & wait
2007-01-05 05:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by ahg30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her know exactly how you feel about her. Then walk away. She will have to live with that for the rest of her life. She was on her back while he was dying on the battlefield for all of us. She is his wife by default, and she knows it. This will play through her head every time she closes her eyes. You should be justified just knowing that.
I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-01-05 06:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an awful situation. You shouldn't take physical actions against her and her boyfriend, but if it were me I would tell her off. Her actions were disgusting and she should be ashamed of her self. Her conscience will get her eventually. Until then, all you can do is support your friend's family and be there for them.
2007-01-05 05:33:08 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you can do so much now.
It's a shame that your friend had to die in Irak.
It's horrible that his wife did that to him, I think she killed him long before the bullet did.
I'm so sorry for him.
Just forget about the wife, don't give her much attention. After a while, go visit her with a member of your late friend's family and ask for his personal items.
2007-01-05 05:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You could try to fight about things in court but technically, I don't think there is anything that could be done. Since he died, that was basically his signature. Sorry for your loss!!!
2007-01-05 05:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by spanky1492 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it will give you satisfaction temperaly it will not help the situation at all. Don't stoop to her level. Leave her alone. Legaly you can't do anything. She has to live with her whoring sorry butt.
2007-01-05 05:30:58 · answer #11 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋