My son is at his 2nd year at a new school. He's in the 6th grade and is being bullied. He's been kicked, called awful names and recently has been hit in the head and punched. I contact the school and talk with the principal and at first she looked for excuses. Now the principal is telling me to make an appointment with her secretary to scheule an appointment between her and us (the parents). This is the forth time that I have contacted school officials to discuss this and it only seems to get worse.
What else can I do and what other tactics are there to ensure my childs safety at school.
2007-01-05 05:26:22 · 29 answers · asked by mthrgu5e 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Martial Arts lessons. He would benefit from the confidence it will build. Now is the time when he will learn to be strong and self reliant. Empower him to face this challenge WITH your support, not behind you. Of Course you continue to fight against what appears to be a negligent principal, but also use this learning opportunity.
2007-01-05 05:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by sdmike 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you can't get through to the principal, keep going up. First try and schedule an appointment with the principal. If they're asking you to have a meeting in two or three months, talk to the school board. This is an immediate issue, not something to be dealt with in a few months.
If you get no response, file a law suit against the school. Sue for mental damage. If you want you can press harrassment charges against the boys bullying your son. Its drastic, but your so isn't just being pushed around, he's being seriousley hurt.
Good luck!
2007-01-05 07:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by countrygurl587 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The unhappy truth in boy-land is that sometimes a good punch in the face solves a lot of problems. My oldest son used to get teased and picked on sometimes because he is small but he is a tough kid who will take down any other kid who picks on him or his younger siblings. After about 5 fights between grades 2-4 he is never picked on anymore and his younger sister and brother are not either. Sure, I had a few visits to the Principals office but it was better than my son being tormented by bullys for years. He is now 12 years old and has not been in a fight for more than a year and is the sweetest gentlest boy you could want to meet. A few good school yard fights did not turn him into "someone who solves all of life's problemns with his fists". It just turned him into a tough kid who gets respect in the school yard.
2016-05-23 06:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See how the meeting goes. If nothing gets solved, and it probably won't, find out who is on the school board. Do you know any of them? If you don't know any of them, try to get on the agenda at the next school board meeting. I'm not sure exactly how to do this, but contacting your school district's superintendent's office should help. You have to go over the principal's head on this one. Find a way to talk to someone on a higher rung of the ladder in your school district. Go to the next school board meeting and talk about the problems you are having with the school principal and how she's giving you the runaround on this serious issue. Also, the next timeyour son gets punched or physically attacked, take him to the doctor even if you don't see any physical injuries. That way, there is some documentation in case the school "accidentally misplaces" any records they had of the event. Best of luck.
2007-01-05 05:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had to call the police in when my daughter was threatened. They took matters into their own hands and it was resolved right then and there. The police officer met with my husband & me, our daughter, the girl that threatened my daughter and her mother. The officer told the mother that it was our decision whether to press charges or to let her daughter off with a warning. We said let her off with a warning & she never bothered my daughter again.
The principal was not very happy that we got the police involved, but he wasn't willing to step up to the plate and do anything.
There seems to be a problem in a lot of schools where the principals don't want to make waves with the parents. Well I think it's about time principals and teachers grow some balls and make a few waves. Don't you??
2007-01-05 07:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send a letter, certified, to the principal and school board. Let them know that they are officially on notice that there is a threat in their school. Since you haven't talked to the school board before, lay out all of the contacts you have with the principal and the non-results that has achieved. (you might also copy you local newpaper, but black out the kids name) Then, let them know that if ANY physical harm comes to your son from this bully--and name him in the letter---you will sue. When it happens--sue.
Also--The school may be subject to the Freedom of Information Act--if so, ask for all school policies regarding complaints from parents and how they are handled, policies regarding harassment, violence and how they are dealt with. Ask for the suspension and expulsion policies---you may already have this in your parent handbook--but it sends a clear message that you are serious.
Good luck.
2007-01-05 05:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry he's going through that. My son is 16 and he says there are some kids in his class picking on him. I told him that if it gets too bad, to pick out the one with the biggest mouth and give him a black eye. I really don't want to encourage kids to fight, but at the same time he has to defend himself.
Other than that, I agreed with the first answer about getting the legal system involved.
2007-01-05 05:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Document everything first and try one more time with the school. I would also contact the parents and tell them you will be getting the police involved in the matter. I would check with a lawyer as well. the school is responsible for this because it has not stopped.
2007-01-05 06:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've already tried going out to the school and talk to the principal and the other boys parents.Raise hell.I say sue 'em.The school and the boys parents.Get u sum money$$$$$$$$$$$$$
2007-01-05 06:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters u should check ur state's laws, they might have some new laws against bullying. Second if it keeps happening change schools and say that he got bullied alot in the previous school. Try filing a police report against the kid for assault who knows they are in middle school kids start reasoning if their actions are right or wrong.
2007-01-05 05:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by AvO21 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋