how do you get over your ex?

Question

how do you get over your ex? any advice?

Answer 1

They say time heals all wounds. They're right but it takes lots and lots of time.
The 'typical' person usually takes about 3 years to reach a relatively stable place as far as getting over an ex after divorce. (not sure of your situation) but I believe that to be about accurate.
I was married for 15 years and the first year I didn't want to live anymore. If I believed that we were REALLY, TRULY divorcing, I couldn't get out of bed. The second year was filled with sadness, loss, grief, and unbelievable lingering pain and of course tears. I'll be going into my third year and things are getting better.

I must admit though that I had some help. One from an abused, abandoned stray dog who blessed my life exactly one year and a day from the day my husband walked out the door. (an angel sent from heaven, really)
That, and his pregnant 26 year old girlfriend (he's 45, I am 41-we never had kids) pretty much gave me the kick in the *** to moooove on!

Check out the web, there are lots of places to interact with folks in the exact same situation...and books! A couple that helped me are 'Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay' by Mira Kirshenbaum and 'Spiritual Crisis' by Young-Sowers.

My heart goes out to you.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I would make a list of all the things your ex did, that you didn't like.
And read it every day. After 2 weeks you should feel better.
Remember all the bad stuff. The good was nice part of your life,
and the list is what you cannot live with and do not want in your life. Keep the list going and tape it up on your bathroom mirror,
Read the list every morning out loud to yourself looking into the mirror. Keep this up until you feel better and please smile, laugh and be around fun people.

Answer 4

Go out with friends; take a class; start reading self-help books; spend more time with family; get a new, interesting hobby; write a list of all the reasons why you and your ex should NOT be together; get a makeover; concentrate on YOU for a change.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Have fun. Surround yourself with friends, family, and other company. Also, don't start dating seriously yet--but do start dating for fun. And make out with lots of hot guys (or girls). Honestly, these strategies completely got me over my divorce. And in the meantime, I met my current husband, who is the greatest. So just go socialize!

Answer 6

Keep yourself busy constantly!! Go places and do "different" things that you have not before. Depending on your emotional status, you may want to do things along for a bit then include your friends. Hang in there, the "feelings" are only temporary.

Answer 7

Start your new life. Where their is an ending, their is a beginning. Start thinking of yourself now. What about the style you liked that he did not like. What about the meals you like that he did not like. Who do you want to be now? Where do you want to go? Plan a whole new life for yourself. Get started today, set goals and plans. Good Luck.

Answer 8

All that depends on if you really loved them to begin with and if you had children with them. Depending on how you felt towards them it is hard to say on how to get over them. But the best thing to do is just to move forward and don't look back.

Answer 9

With support from your friends and family. It takes a while, but if they support you, it just makes that bumpy road all the more worth travelling. Hang in there, eventually, you will find someone to start another relationship. That in itself will help....but that should come later.

Answer 10

Keep yourself busy, involve in physical activities, set a goal, or date other guys. But most of all, forgive him and yourself for what had happened and accept what happened. Consider it a part of a finished chapter in your life and look forward to another chapter.