That I have sexual thoughts about other guys other then my husband, or is it human? I never have reacted on them before, nor have I ever cheated, but I may have in my thoughts, is it wrong?
2007-01-05 05:06:22 · 53 answers · asked by Jackie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it is perfectly normal.. and if your husband is any sort of real man, he should understand this. Both me and my wife use this in our sex life as a posative. She does not want to actually have sex with another guy but is interested in experamenting with another women if the ocassion ever arises. She is very shy so it is highly unlikley. We go to strip clubs and she has a ball. She had a privat dance once and the dancer made out with her and they played with eachothers breasts. She couldn't even wait until we got home.. The key to a great relationship is trust, lack of jealousy and the ability to comunicate with your partner. I am not suggesting you tell your husband or that you act on these dreams, but they are normal and could become a positive in your marriage... Good Luck
2007-01-05 05:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is a natural way of life . Even your husband might look at another woman and be like dam that girl got a butt i can ride. It's a human thing to think look and even fantasize . But it is what you do that makes a differences. If you act on your thoughts that what makes it wrong . But there are couple out there that swing to fulfill these fantasies of being with others. but it is a mutual agreement with both partners . But back to the subject it's normal girl you are normal and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it.
2007-01-05 05:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by mary_llinas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're normal and not wrong at all. Sexuality and sexual attractiveness is only ONE aspect of a relationship and marriage is based on MUCH more than just sex! Certainly as a man your husband is hard wired to notice other women as guys are genrally much more visual than women this is normal. Its also normal for you to want to fantasize and/or look at other guys. If you husband is a secure person and you have a good relationship, you can even share this with him. Of course, if you decide you want/need to ACT on those attractions, you may have to do some serious evaluation of your relationship and dig deeper into what's going on.
2007-01-05 05:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Turtleshell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying, "as a person is in his/her heart so is he/she". It sounds as if there has been a break down in communication between you and the hubby. Let him know how you like sex and what you want to do. That's what he is there for and you are there for him, together you guys could have a wild time. Don't knock it until you've tried it. The thing that makes everyone else seem so sexual is because you don't know them or they are new, will it be as exciting when you've been with them for a while. It's up to you to make it exciting for yourself and you'll find that hubby will gladly jump into the game.
2007-01-05 05:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how it could be wrong. Look at all the tv shows, magazines, advertisments, movies, recording artists... all have people that are very attractive (sex sells). Just because you think Brad Pit is sexy, does that mean you should dump your husband? I should hope not! Being attracted to other people isn't really a problem in a marriage, it's acting on and pursuing that attraction that is a problem.
2007-01-05 05:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by Darren 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Please don't be too hard on yourself. Most people do. It's about whether you act on those instincts is important.
Those thoughts may be because you may be feeling under-appreciated, or you don't get enough or you may even have some unfulfilled fantasies.
But, you'll see a lot of us telling you that we have sexual thoughts about others even if we have a great sexual relationship in our marriages. You're just fine darling :-)
2007-01-05 05:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not neccesarily wrong, but it may be a good indication that there is strife or concern in your current relationship. Don't straight out TELL your husband about these thoughts, but rather ask him if he's happy, content with your relationship, or if something is bothering him. It sounds to me that your sex life might be missing some key factors in it. Be bold and try something new with your hubby?....... :)
2007-01-05 05:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by cajunpalomino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are fine, we all are that way and if we were not life would get very boring. It is called fantasy and it helps to motivate us to be less boring and more adventurous. It is ok to look in the fridge and druel when we are on a diet but not good to indulge. Same as marriage. You will find that your husband looks at other women too, don't be jealous but thankfull he is not blind or dead. Just like you. Enjoy life its too short.
2007-01-05 05:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by hfhron2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe that it is human nature to look at other men and get attracted to them it just is your hormones; the fact that you are married does not really have anything to do with getting like that over men.
Of course as long as you don’t actually act upon them or have the urge to do so.
2007-01-05 05:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by Just ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely normal to have thoughts like that. You can still be a faithful wife as long as you keep it in your mind and DON'T act on them. If you find yourself thinking about other men only and never your husband, that's when it could be a problem.
2007-01-05 05:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋