The guy I'm dating is acting weird and is confusing me. He claims he does not want a serious r/ship but then acts like he loves me. Like he breaks plans with his friends to be with me, drove 2 hours to my house, doesn't want me to leave when I'm at his house, wants me to stay all night cuddling, doesn't want me talking to my ex-bf. But then still says he just wants to keep it casual.
He also seeks reassurance, like asking how he ranks with the other guys I've been with, asks why I want to be his girlfriend, is jealous of my ex-bf calling me and asks who broke up with who and stuff like that.
Does it sound like he is just scared to get too close? He has low self-esteem and is afraid he is going to be rejected eventually?? What do you think?? Thanks!!!
2007-01-05 04:51:30 · 7 answers · asked by bellyyo62 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know he doesn't have anyone else because he told me he didn't and he has been extremely honest with me so I know he's not lying.
2007-01-05 04:59:31 · update #1
hes keeping the relationship open for him and not you goes back to nature keep the other hardons away while you make sure your seed gets planted even though thats not his plan to set his seed but its an instinct, he will make up everything in the book and this is why some people are on here asking questions
2007-01-05 04:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be scared by the Bible, for it will reveal your sin. As you have picked on the look of lust, who is there that is not convicted by such? That is an easy one to apply, but in fact all of God's law will apply though at first it might not be so immediately clear. All sin is an offence against God, a breach of His Law. Just as criminals in earthly courts must be punished and are not just let off so much the more in God's perfect justice must all sin be punished. Of course there will be a final judgement of all but yet there are judgements even in this life which you have picked up on in the poetic language of God's triumph over His enemies. It may also have a reference to darker forces behind the human personality. People do not like the Bible because it reminds them and convicts them of their sin and gross falling short of God's glory. The gouging out of an eye is language to show the very serious steps you must take to avoid sin. After all you have two eyes, so gouging out one would be insufficient if you were to take it literally. With a little thought you should be able to understand what is literal and what is descriptive. You will surely find that you will not be able to stop sinning and obey God in your own strength alone, you will find that you do not even want to. It is all there in the Bible. Read Romans especially. You will need, as all others, to seek God, both for His forgiveness and for strength to live as you should, and also for understanding of those things you don't. The Bible shows you and it is a personal journey. Don't be hindered by any, not by men nor churches but seek God for yourself, for that is what He would have and He is well able to provide in absolutely everything. But first you have a problem, as many before have also had. The problem of your sin and accountability to God. Until you close with Him about that, you will remain outside and the Bible likely continue a scary, confusing and threatening Book. It remains God's word and though now you may not be able to understand parts of it, those that you can are probably the ones that are relevant to you in your position and if you are faithful in your response more will be given. Read Romans and also John.
2016-03-29 09:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what gzmom said about the "red flags" is right on. He not only sounds insecure but a bit controlling and that can be a dangerous combination!
2007-01-05 05:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to yourself---the red flags have been waving---only you know if the feelings are right. If it makes you uncomfortable---talk to him about it---if he tries to compromise, then keep him====But if he continues to do the things that he knows upsets you, then leave his azz! We don't have to settle just to say that we have somebody. I would rather be alone than with someone who is emotionally detached. Love yourself.
2007-01-05 04:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by gzmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he wants to get close to you but then he thinks about it and trys to back up a bit from you. his actions are showing you every thing though because actions speak louder than words. i think he is scared of falling for you and then you leave him or maybe he is scared to settle down with you and then want someone else. talk to him about it and see where his mind and heart is,
2007-01-05 04:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.Dennis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like your already in a serious relationship, he just scared to tell you.......
2007-01-05 04:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope youre just one of his many women cant you tell?
2007-01-05 04:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋