My bf and I have been together for a year now. We both have been married previously and are a little gun shy sort of speak. I'd love to be his wife and make it official. Should I pop the question or would this be totally inappropriate?
2007-01-05 04:45:25 · 10 answers · asked by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think it is not a good idea.. i mean, it's ok for a woman to nudge a man, and bring up discussion of it, because a Woman should know where the relationship is going or she has the right to break it up if the man is wishy washy. but to propose, i think signifies that u may be in for a marriage where u either Have to wear the pants, or u Want to. and that's not good, cuz in a relationship (i think) a Man should know how to take care of the Woman.. how to make good decisions that affect the family, how to make her feel Safe and Secure. if he doesn't know how to do it now, and YOU are more "aggressive" about things, that is kind of an indication of what this marriage will be like. which is OK if u don't mind, but personally i can't really have true respect for someone if they can't make decisions or do anything, and I have to do it all the time. u have to at least be able to respect someone and trust them enough to do what is necessary... if i depend on myself to do that all the time, then i wouldn't have to get married!!!
2007-01-05 04:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally I don't think it's a good idea for most of the reasons already mentioned. The third answer said it best when she states that it's up to the man to pop the question for a reason.
If the guy really wants to commit to you, he'll ask. If he doesn't really want to commit, he may simply "agree" to do it so he doesn't lose a good thing. It doesn't necessarily mean that he'll be as good of a husband as he is a boyfriend. He was simply "giving you what you asked for."
2007-01-05 12:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pop the question. Let him know that even though you had a bad experience before, that you think he's the "right kind of guy" for you. But, dont' pop the question. Just let him know you'd say "yes" and then leave the ball in his court.
It's up to the man to pop the question for a reason :)
Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-01-05 12:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG ty for asking us!
That is awesome.
He will be thrilled... Why do people assume men are the only ones who can pop the question?
Haven't you heard? This is a woman's world now!
Best of luck on your upcoming engagement:)
2007-01-05 12:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would not like a woman to propose to me. Just mention the thought of marriage to him...chances are he is thinking the same thing!
2007-01-05 12:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by dwarner33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In general, nothing at all inappropriate about a girl proposing.
In your case, how can we answer as to what you should do? But if you choose to ask, there's nothing wrong with you doing the asking.
2007-01-05 12:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My grandparents got divorced when i was young and my grandmother popped the question to her current husband. I thought that was pretty cool. I guess it shouldn't surprise him too bad.
2007-01-05 12:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by Raina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's cool for a girl to do it, but careful...men freak out so easily! Feel it out some first.
2007-01-05 12:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by tx girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it.
And don't nag.
Be sweet and fun and he'll want to marry you.
2007-01-05 12:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by Ade 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's kind of butch.
2007-01-05 12:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋