I am a new mother and I am scared to death...I just dont feel happy anymore....When the baby wakes up or people say that he is so cute I dont feel that excitement that I should be and I really want too....Help please?
2007-01-05 04:36:07 · 10 answers · asked by Kate b 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Yes, sounds like a bit of post partum depression. Yes, you need to talk to your doctor about it. But, here's some food for thought as to WHY you're feeling the way you do...
For the nine months previous to his birth, he was a part of you and got everything he needed without any effort on your part, short of eating right and getting the prenatal care you needed. Now that he is born, he is now a beautiful person that's depending on you for everything. That's a big change, and it's hard to deal with sometimes. On top of that, your body and hormones are trying to recover from pregnancy. The excitement of a new birth evolves into a deep love of the person you've created. Just because you aren't on cloud nine doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. Just acknowledging the fact that you see the difference tells me you already want what's best for your little one, and are working to give it to him. God Bless you for that. The best advice I can give you is to be patient with yourself. Motherhood is very complex, but you will do fine. Good luck to you...
Blessings
2007-01-05 05:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by Silverwolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to respond like everyone EXPECTS you to respond. I think its perfectly normal not to be thrilled to pieces about every aspect of parenting. Its a lot of WORK! There are many good postpartum resources these days, maybe joining a Mother's Center would be beneficial, you can talk with other Mom's and see that you may not be so different as you think you are.
I can only speak for the state of NY, but check local resources (phone book beleive it or not)
Good Luck
2007-01-05 05:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by motherhendoulas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kinda depends on how old the baby is. The first 6 months or so, baby blues are common. Trust me I know. Especially, if you're scared. If it's that bad, call your prenatal doctor and ask for a referral for a psychiatrist. You might need medication or just need someone to talk to.
2007-01-05 04:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it..your just tired..you don't have to be happy....your just depressed....its OK....this is a big change....take your time...you don't have to be in love with your baby right away....you don't know him...it's normal...relax , hey at least you didn't leave him in the car like I did...I forgot him in the car when i got home and somebody came over wanting to see the baby, and i was like where is he...i looked all over....he was in the car with beads of sweet all over his forehead ...dang....that was a close one....thank god! My son still can't believe I forgot him in the car... He is 21 in Feb.... Oh yea....See the DR,,,, For Depression....!!!
2007-01-05 04:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by hatchetmistress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could be feeling some of that post partem depression, talk to your doctor...being a new mom is hard btu they are so worth it....try to relax, these are the best days and you should really enjoy them.they grow up too quick and if you feel that bad you really need to talk to some one......just learn to relax and good luck to you and your new one.
2007-01-05 04:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by cnwhab4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called post pardum depression almost every woman gets it after childbirth. You could go see ur doctor and he could prescribe sme meds for u.
2007-01-06 01:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by stefstudy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like post partum depression. You need to talk to your doctor.
2007-01-05 04:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please go get some help. Go to a counselor or a responsible adult. It doesnt even have to be family. Try a friends parent. Anyone. I'm sure there's someone out there that can help you out!
2007-01-05 04:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your doctor about POST PARTUM depression.....sounds like you are a very good candidate. You need to talk about this immediatly.
2007-01-05 04:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by mommy2be in march! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it could be post-partum depression. ask your doctor more about this.
2007-01-05 04:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by Lin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋