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Question

I am 17 years old...I just had a baby...December27th 2006....(Baby Boy Brayden)....I was very tiny duiring my pregnancy so I was able to hide it from my dad very well(No mom in the picture)....And now I am going from place to place with the baby trying to hide him from my dad....I dont know how to tell my dad....

Answer 1

You need to get help. Has this baby been checked since it was born? Truthfully I'm extremely scared for the well being of your child if you can't even tell your father you had one! GROW UP! You just brought a child into this world, if your not grown up enough to admit your mistakes then your not grown up enough to care for a child. Go talk to Social Services, they can give you and your father counseling to deal with the new addition to your family, they can help you with food, everything. And if you decide not to raise the child a loving family can be found to adopt him. I was adopted and it was the best unselfish thing a person can do - to give up their child so they can have a better life. Think about it. Or grow up.

Answer 2

Just tell him. The longer you wait, the more he will be hurt by your deception. He is missing out on precious time with his new grandson that he can't get back.

An even more important is the fact that there is an issue here that far outweighs any concerns about how your father will react ... this baby needs a good, stable home. Juggling the baby between different homes is not good. Your father may be able to help you offer your baby what he needs. Your son's needs are much more important than your concerns about how your father will take the news!!!

Look on the bright side, it may be easier the break the news now that the baby is here because babies are cute and can warm the hearts of grandparents.


And if you still can't manage to just sit down and talk with your dad you could ask a school councelor for help if you are still in school.

Answer 3

You really need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your dad about his new grandson. Let him know what is going on in your life and where you plan to go from here on out. You and the baby both need a stable home life instead of you both running from place to place. If your boyfriend his still in the picture, you may want to invite his to be there as well for your support. I don't know the situation between you and your dad but you need to include him in your son's life. Grandparents can have a positive effect in a child's life. If you are to scared to talk to him alone then maybe you could confide in other family members to help you tell him or maybe even talk to him for you. I wish you luck with your father as well as the little one.

Answer 4

You'll be ok ... don't wait ... I know of one daughter who was in the hospital telling her dad she was having a baby (she was living under his roof at the time) so it does happen. He was more concerned that everyone was healthy and well taken care of - that is afterall what most parents do - any anger of your not telling sooner (if it happens) will not last long ... he's a grandpa and thats usually even more fun than having kids (at least that's what the general feeling is from all the talk I hear in our primarily grandparent based community)

Answer 5

Are you telling the truth? Do people really do that??? I had my 5 year old when I was 18. Believe me, I understand how hard that is! However, I couldn't imagine doing it without the support of my family!!! You really should have involved your dad a lot sooner because waiting this long makes it that much harder to tell him. Please though, for the sake of you and your baby, TELL YOUR DAD! I can't tell you how he'd respond because I don't know your father. Think of it this way though...what is the worst he could do? If you're truely scared, bring someone with you. Please e-mail me and tell me how this works out!! I wish you and your son the best!

Answer 6

I know a family where the girl hid the pregnancy and later even denied it when she was asked.

The reality was even though she was not obviously showing around her middle her legs and bottom looked a little different. Her family just kind of knew she was pregnant, but what could anyone do when she kept saying she wasn't.

There is at least the possibility that your father wondered if you were or even wonders if you are right now.

Answer 7

You need to go to a counselor and have them help you with the situation with your dad. You can not hide that child forever. The best thing is to be honest. Your dad will start wondering. As for hiding the pregnancy most women develop large breasts after birth when they start to lactate. Just do it soon he may suprise you with his reaction. Good Luck

Answer 8

there is no time like the present...you cant hide it forever and from experience, the longer you wait the worse you will feel over time and the harder he will take it. On top of the sudden news he may get more mad that you kept it a secret from him for so long. And if he doesnt like it, it doesnt matter he is still going to be your dad and you will still have your baby and life goes on. Good luck.

Answer 9

You really need to tell your dad..He is a grandpa. call him and ask him if he can come to a place where you feel safe and have some one there for you too and tell him.. Dad I need to talk to you. Its really inportent. I Had a baby. I hid my pregnacy from you becuse i was afred of hurting you. I had a baby boy on the 27th. Im sorry.: then hand him the baby if he wants to see him. but give him time to let it all sink in. best of luck

Answer 10

You need to tell him. What's the worse that could happen? Going from place to place with a baby is not the smartest thing to do. Do you have any other family around that can take you in? Good luck and God bless you and your little one!