I have done this many times in my life. People that I care about or have had falling outs with I obsess about the situation and the person and or maybe how I reacted to things. I don't like confrontation but I wish there had been times to talk things out but realizing how the person really is that can't just talk things out normally. I just have to eventually accept things the way they are and let it work out for itself which is really hard for me to do because I am very impatient with things. Any suggestions?
2007-01-05 04:28:12 · 5 answers · asked by Sweet Pea 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Ok, do not get offended. Your only one person and that is
part of any discussion of your personal space. I really feel this
happening, somewhat around myself, and that is because I am
especially lonesome. Lonesome for better fun. I am tired of
that training we call to become an adult. Yet the wide christian
experience tells me, I am only me. The fact is that those feeling
intelligent go thru this status you described. You need realize it
may be that you are supported by all of us, has not given you
a clear closer. Closure can be that fact that you did your best.
That is all you could do. Try to keep Peace, love, sharing,
knowledge, traditions that you hold dear in the higher place in
all that you best do. Happy 2007, worries only make wrinkles.
2007-01-05 04:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by mtvtoni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're actually on the right track by realizing that you have to eventually accept things the way they are. We can obsess on things but try to look at the big picture. What difference will these things make in a month, year, decade? I understand your impatience. But we all tend to be uncomfortable with things we can't control. Life is short and the huge majority of these issues don't matter!
2007-01-05 12:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have struggled with this also. We want to help others when we are not perfect ourselves. We tend to do this to neglect our own internal dsenial. It is a type of codependancy. Read the book The Journey with Brandon Bays gives the process to get to the root of our own internal denial. Also read Bhagavad Gita As it is By Bhaktivedanta to go even deeper on a more spiritual platform.
2007-01-05 12:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called ruminating, and it happens to more people than you'd realize. We usually can't accept the outcome of a situation, and so in our minds we try to rationalize or justify the outcome in order to accept it.
The key is just to accept the situation and move on by learning a lesson from it. Hopefullly, it won't happen again.
2007-01-05 13:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i do this too. i think its easier to focus the problems on things we cannot change instead of dealing with the problems we can change.
2007-01-05 13:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋