flirting with a married man back fired????

Question

I started flirting with a married man just to be cute and friendly.He actually started flirting with me first and i thought nothing of it because i just like to flirt!i do not put out or anything so i am not a whore.We met when i was in my first year of college and could not stand each other.He thought i was spoiled and prepie.I thought he was a wigger and a looser because he already had a daughter who was 7 at age 23.Later on as fate would have it when i graduated he ended up being my boss for two hellish years.He left for entrepeneur work and actually contacted me a year later to invest as a partner.I did and thats where the flirting began along with the traveling.I knew he was attracted to me but told him i would not do anything with him unless he was single.Only problem is he actually left his wife and the divorce will be final in three weeks.I feel guilty and do not know how to fix this?

I feel my job that i love and worked so hard for is on the line!its not that i dont like him or am not attracted to him but i feel funny about seeing him and i feel presured to do so know?

Answer 1

It will never work. case closed, tell him to go home to his wife and child, do not give in under pressure, sue him for sexual harassment if you have to.

Answer 2

Your situation is a perfect example as to why flirting can be dangerous ,,,, Don't do ,,, say ,,, or act anyway that conveys something you don't mean ,,,, I don't mean this to sound derogatory but it's possible that you could be considered a home wrecker ,,,,, Of course on the other hand if the situation in his marriage was what it should have been and his feelings towards his wife was what they should be then this wouldn't have happened in the first place ,,,,So you can't be held totally responsible ,,,, If you feel that you don't want something permanent with this guy then you'd better be up front and tell him as quickly as you can ,,,,, Be careful with what you do with him though ,,,,, You never know ,,,,, If you did involve yourself with him then it's possible you could wind up in his wife's place ,,,,, He's left her because some was flirting with him and you did say you wouldn't do anything with anyone that wasn't single (which in it's self is commendable) but what's to say he won't leave you if some one else starts flirting with him later on ,,,, You should have recognized that this guy is letting his glands do his thinking for him ,,,, You could possibly be the reason or trigger for this ,,,, It's just possibly though ,,,, That doesn't necessarily have to hold true ,,,, The sad thing about this whole situation though is the little girl ,,,, People should think about how much they love their children before they have them ,,,, As it is now she can join the club of thousands of other children as the product of a broken home ,,,, You need to be careful what you do with this guy regardless of his situation though ,,,, I'm sure you didn't intend for things to go this far ,,,, If you aren't into this guy really then you definitely need to tell him ,,,, This situation could be considered a lesson learned for future reference not only for you but for him too ,,,, Ok so you made a mistake ,,,,, People do that all the time ,,,,, You are only human ,,,,,, But learn from it and don't feel that what he's done with his own life obligates you to him in any way ,,,,, You made a mistake ,,,,, don't let it snowball you into making any more ,,,,, Use your head in this situation ,,,, You will probably have to take some lumps of some kind from this but learn from it ,,,,,, Good luck ,,,, Yoda told you this

Answer 3

Until the divorce is final, stay away! He can stop it until it is done. You both are in the wrong for "flirting" in the first place. By the way, if you do stay with him and say even marry him, can you trust that he won't find some other woman to start "flirting" with and do to you what has been done to his wife? What about you? Will you find someone else? Fix it? If you feel guilty, you know you were wrong. End it.

Answer 4

You really should feel guilty because you broke up this family's home due to your selfishness. In my estimation a married man has always been off-limits! That is just one place you do not go. You have caused some woman a lot of heartache (though she is probably much better off without this loser). It sounds as if you are not even in love with this cheater, so bow out gracefully. Maybe he has seen the error of his ways and has an understanding wife who just might take him back.

Answer 5

This is exactly why you should not be flirting with a married man whether or not it was just fun for you doesnt really matter you may have broken up a marriage, how would you feel if some lady was flirting with your husband, and he ended up leaving you for her? Thats messed up and if I was his wife I would probably knock you out. If you lose your job because you dont hook up with the guy I say you deserve it, its karma because you messed up someones life, now yours can be screwed up too. Life sucks huh? Next time think about how what you are doing for "fun" will effect others.

Answer 6

There is no real "fixing" this. My guess, however, is that the divorce was probably in the offing with or without your actions. You might have added a small incentive, perhaps, but this guy was trolling anyway. Besides, his flirting was likely not limited to just you.

The best thing is to remember this episode (and learn from it) in the future, so that it does not recur in the future. As far as dealing with him once he is newly single, that is up to you. Personally, if I were in your position, I would steer clear of him. He just might be in search of his next ex-wife.

Answer 7

He probably didn't leave his wife becuase of you. I'm sure there were other issues as well. If you really believe you caused the divorce however, you have alot of honest explaining to do and serious apologizing to both him AND the wife. Then you better clear out of his life forever. You've done enough damage.

Answer 8

well, a man doesn't leave his wife unless he doesn't love her any more. You don't divorce your wife for another woman. You divorce her cause you don't love her. So i guess you are not completely to blame. Remember there are thousands of mistresses who think their men are going to divorce their wives and they don't.
What i do think is that if you have led him on, you need to set matters straight as soon as you can. There's no excuse for makinga person believe you love them if you don't, but don't let guilt be part of anything you have to say. He left hsi wife cuz he wanted to, you were just the excuse he used.

Answer 9

Sure, married men do that all the time. And, yes, it is an ego-boost for them. Now, is it morally right?? Probably not. Is it an indication that something is wrong in the marriages of both of the flirters??? Definitely yes.

Answer 10

go out with him once or twice act like a total jerk to him. then he will break it off, then your off the hook. unless you really like the guy maybe just let him know you don't think it will work out, be honest. maybe ask him if he is sure he wants a divorce give his marriage a second chance. or maybe he has been cheating on his wife a she wants the divorce. be up front no matter what

Answer 11

Things will be ok don't spaz out! Take it slow if you like him go out with him if not move on. His marriage was probably already over anyway. Don'y blame yourself flirting never caused anyone to get divorced.