i cant belive that my boyfriend was cheating on me wit some other gurl! i got on his myspace and i seen alot of pictures of this gurl and he put i love her so much. but thats not the thing i dont kno if im pregnant 4rm him. he told me that he doesnt want to kno anything about me or the baby that i should kill it or take care of it by myself because he doesnt want to be responsible. he made me fall for him and i thought he was going to help me through everything. what shiould i do. i took 2 test it came out positive. and he doesnt want nothing to do with me someone please help!!!
2007-01-05 04:19:58 · 25 answers · asked by ~*y@ GuRl 4rM D@t 305*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im not going to get an abortion because its not the baby's fault for all this to happen. i dont kno how i can get over him its hard i jus wish this didnt happen to me.
2007-01-05 04:46:42 · update #1
this baby is his i didnt cheat on him because i didnt have sex for 2 months and til now i have sex with him and hes denying it so he wont take responsibility
2007-01-05 04:54:33 · update #2
im 16 and hes 15
2007-01-05 04:58:21 · update #3
Oh man im sorry you're in this situation and i wish i could help...but things like this happens all the time to females - the first thing you shoudl do is FORGET ABOUT HIM, he is clearly a loser and i feel bad for the girl he is talking to now....anyway just be strong for you and your baby if you decide to keep it, and if you get rid of it dont do it just because he's not with you anymore
Good luck
2007-01-05 04:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a difficult problem you are in. It's complicated to resolve. I guess you are in need of emotional support. You should understand that your boyfriend is your boyfriend and not your husband. Since he isn't putting any responsibility in your future or your children... then I suggest it's time to decide what you want in your best interest.
If you know he isn't going to be there... would you still raise the soon to be child? If you want to live a life where you are better off without him and the child... then are you willing to consider the morning after pill or abortion?
It gets complicated but the most damage this has caused to you... is your trust and love for your boyfriend.
However, don't jump to conclusions. Find out why you think your bf cheated on you and make sure you are positive that he did cheat on you.
You only gave out small hints of him saying "I LOVE YOU" on myspace with some other woman. But be aware of what is going on. Be alert but don't kill yourself for doing so.
You have choices to make. Start thinking about what's best for 'you'.
2007-01-05 04:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first are you 100% sure the baby is his? it seems like you cheated on him too if you got pregnant and arent even sure if its his. if you do have the baby he will have to pay support and be a part of the childs life no matter what. at the same time if you are not together it may be best to abort the child, since he doesnt want any part of the childs life. its not good to bring up a child without plans to be married, or no support from one parent or the other, it will be a burden on both you and the child. think about everything, it willbe hard for you as a mother for many many years, very stressful, and emotionally painful, and i dont want to say it but its true, if you have a child it will be hard for you to find someone else, most guys dont want a girl with a child if its not their own, sorry but its true.
2007-01-05 04:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by Butter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be live the jerk when he says he doesn't want to have anything to do with you or the baby. If your not ready to raise a child alone you could consider adoption, Or possibly abortion depending on what you believe. There is a great place called pregnancy crisis centers that are very helpful to ladies in your circumstance. They are great moral support and right now you need all the support you can get. And don't give that loser another thought, he;s no good. Good luck
2007-01-05 04:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by Susan P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dear...Im sorry to hear that..But some men are bastards ..
i know the situation is not just about breaking up.. Cause u r pregnant. It depends on how old are you, but im 22 and if i were you, i still would do abortion for the most important reason: it is, that ur baby deserved the best dad ever, and obviuosly ur stupid ex cant be one. besides, the child will remind the time, when u were hurt and betrayted.
i believe that baby must come only then,when other people are waiting for him/her to come.
Hope u will make a right decision.
If u need anything, please dont hesitate n let me know.
Take care
2007-01-05 04:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin' he's telling you to kill or get rid of the child, that right there spells jerk...with capitals, messing around on you...still JERK capitalized!
You are better off without him, he sounds like someone who loves to cause pain...you don't need him to live your life your way...you can probably do much better now that he's ruining/devastating someone else's life.
Life with him would just be a downer...someone much better is going to come along for you and you are going to be OH SO glad that this guy let you go free.
There are thousands of single moms out there and many who are doing just fine on their own...they have become very independent and they know what they want from a partner so they understand they can be choosy if they wish. It will all work out and you will end up happier in the long run.
Don't allow him to make your life miserable any longer and don't believe that you can't do this on your own...grabbing for just any guy to take care of you can be nasty business...you're smarter than that ;)
take care and good luck
2007-01-05 04:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first calm yourself your in a real fluttery state. Your dead beat boyfriend will have to take the paternity test so that way you know for sure it is his baby. He will have to pay support for the babies upbringing. You didn't make this baby alone no matter how he wants to deny it.
Check in the front page of your yellow pages for pregnancy counselling. Call one that is a non-kill type that way you have more options to consider.
If you just want to talk it out before talking to your Mom or the counselor call 1-800-448-3000 this is a 24 hour hotline for any problem.
2007-01-05 04:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens all too often. Mr. Wonderful turns out to be not-so-great. Kick him to the curb and get some help to deal with your pregnancy. If you are pregnant and want to adopt the baby out, contact me. :) If not, get the prenatal care you need and the support from your friends/family members that you are going to need. You will end up stronger than him and a paternity test performed by the state should help to introduce the creep to the "joys" of a little nightmare called CHILD SUPPORT! Best wishes to you!
2007-01-05 04:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by searching_please 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, honey, I'm so sorry you're in this position.
Firstly, you need to let him go. Continuing to be involved with someone like that can only harm you and the baby.
Secondly, taking on full time mommyhood and abortion are not your only choices. You can also consider giving your baby up for adoption. Go and see your doctor and get going on all of the prenatal things you need if you decide to follow through on the pregnancy and also check out these websites:
http://www.giftoflifeadoptions.com/
http://adoptionnetwork.com/
http://www.americanadoptions.com/
2007-01-05 04:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by cornsss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him stay or want you anymore, so the next thing is to look after yourself and the well being of the baby that you are carrying. Then your choice to to keep it or put it up for adoption if you don't want it either. If you keep it, then I would go after him legally to make sure he is the father, and then have the courts tell him of how he is to help support the two of you. It's going to be a long road no matter what path you take!
2007-01-05 04:23:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋