My bf's friend just died, and i want to help him feel better. but whenever i try he just goes away.. so i thought of just leaving him alone, but then i felt like i was abandoning him. I don't want to abandon him and I don't want to say anything wrong...so what do i do?
2007-01-05 04:10:43 · 9 answers · asked by x3_myz_k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
give him space and time. but make sure you're there when he needs you. let him feel that you're still there for him whatever it takes. it doesn't necessarily mean that you're abandoning him when you're giving him space and time to be alone. it means you respect him and you love him as your friend. he'll come back or talk to you again once he's ready.
2007-01-05 04:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Chelsea's Momi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he knows you are there for him, but you are leaving it in his court to talk when he is ready. Everyone grieves differently...his way may be to have alone time. Give him time, if he knows you love him and you are there for him should he need you, that's all you have to do. Don't try to make him talk about it, and don't be offended if he chooses not to discuss it with you. If he is walking away from you, that's a sure sign he isn't ready to open up about his feelings. The grieving process is a hard thing for anyone to go through...
2007-01-05 04:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a big deal.You can say him that "Each creatures will taste the death."Therefore you wouldn't behave different towards him.You'll not be able to alter this situation for him as you know.
On the other hand,this life is just a entertainment,the essential life is the other life.
The death is so usual for all the creatures.Your boy friend need to know this kind of information.He have to come terms with this situation without ordeal.The life is continue.And his ordeal will not change anything whatever the circumstances are.
By the way,your boy friend ought to come terms himself,if he can't you'll not be able to help him for this situation.
2007-01-05 04:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by controlsilent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him time to deal with the situation when he is ready to talk make sure your there to listen because he doesn't want to open up right now but when he is truly ready to talk just stop what your doing because he will appreciate it
2007-01-05 04:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone, he needs to sort out his feelings on his own. Tell him to call if he wants to talk. Tell him you'll be there if you need him.
Most importantly, listen to him and what he has to say. Don't judge...and try not to say "I know how you feel"...because you don't.
Be supportive and he'll remember how sweet you were.
Good luck.
2007-01-05 04:14:31 · answer #5 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably just needs some time to deal with it by himself. Give him some time and space, just make sure that you're there for him when he's ready to talk.
2007-01-05 04:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ashleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him space, he knows your trying to be there for him but he's trying to deal with the death. When he wants to talk he'll come to you.
2007-01-05 04:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by Vee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter how much he says e need to be alone be there for him and dont be there for him as his girlfriend but as a friend. im really sorry about what happend though
2007-01-05 04:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by Xtina12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is the time for him to be by himself so just leave for couple of days and he will get over it sooner or later.
2007-01-05 04:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋