I really would like to put this behind me I promise myself that I would and could move on in 2007. But here I am still stuck in the past that is moving on. What can I do to stop what I feel? No I do not want to be in inmate relationship with this man nor do I want to be with him again any shape or form. I still care about how he is doing or what he is doing. It is affecting my life in a bad way. So what can I do to stop caring? I pray, I keep busy, and I read. But still I am in this trap fighting everyday to move on. I thought about talking to my preacher or a counselor. But how do I tell them I am crazy behind a married man? Yes I said married man. A married man that is promised to someone else again, I know people do it everyday so I am not knocking that.
2007-01-05 03:56:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Who wants to be in a one sided relationship, anyway? Do you really think you are not worthy of something whole, so you take the dreggs of someone else.
You have to remember that any man that cheats on a partner will do it to you eventually if you get together. Now, how would you feel about this man, doing it to you???? Be honest.
This guy is a loser and can't be trusted with anyone, no where, no how, never.
it is okay to store feelings in your heart, but they are from the past and should stay there,.
Our lives are about living to the fullest possible and sharing them with someone who will love us totally and unconditionally. I am sorry but I do not see this as being the case.
You are stuck in neutral and have chosen not to go into drive. This is a self fulfilling prophecy....
No one but you can help you.... You have to forgive yourself for being used, making a bad decision and wasting your life.
Once you do that you can begin to heal.
He does not need you or your concern, he has his life that he had before and is going on with it.
Being curious is one thing, being obsessive is another. You are punishing yourself , self abuse, it won't make it better or make it go away. You won't let it go until you have had enough....
You have to learn to let go of those things that you have no control over.
Then and only then will you be able to get on with your life.
2007-01-05 04:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure time will work, but you also need to remember that what goes around comes around. You don't want this coming back to you when you do finally find a man that you feel is all your own. Emotions are a hard thing to deal with, but I think that for the sack of everyone that is involved - directly and indirectly - it is best to move on. You should know that you don't deserve to be second to anyone. If you are putting him first in line than you should be first in whomever you are involved with life as well. Don't settle!! Your true love - the one that you are really longing and desiring for - is out there and he cannot come into your life because this blockage is there. Give it up, you will feel better after you truly leave it alone. Don't allow your mind to wonder if one day. Acknowledge that you maybe in love with this man, but you truly have to move on. It is really about making up your mind. It in normal for a woman to care and wonder if the man is ok. That is just our nature, nevertheless, the relationship you desire with this man is not healthy for you in any way, shape or form. You deserve to be the apple of your man's eye not just a piece that he gets when the coast is clear.
2007-01-05 12:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by Drea G. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is married he was not with you for love he was there for sex, Im sorry to tell you that. But yes you do need to move on. I would tell to go see an counselor or preacher they will not judge you. They are there to give advice they won't be bias. Just because people do it everyday doesn't make it right.
Maybe you need to go and meet some new people try asking your friends if the know a single man.
Try spending time with your friends, so that when your out you will meet new peopl.
Just get your self out there.
Your going to be fine.
2007-01-05 12:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reassure urself there is nothing wrong w/caring about him. If he is going to marry that is ok too. Everyone deserves to be happy in this lifetime. There is nothing at all wrong w/caring about him!!!Try one of those E-harmony sites and just keep meeting people until ur heart tells u to zone in on a new mate. You r not the guys Mother so stop thinking u need to take care of him.Just care and 1 x a year send a x-mas card. Somebody out there will appreciate all u have to give.
2007-01-05 12:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by Dotr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that anyone who has you as second in their life doesn't really care about you at all...plus keep in mind that what goes around comes around meaning, when you actually do find tha one true love, be it him or someone else that same mess that ur doing now will happen to you
I think you should talk to someone too - that might help because i know how it is to be crazy in love over someone, those are the hardest relationships to get out of and forget
2007-01-05 11:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even get involved with someone who is already married? Don't you want a person who can give you all the love and total commitments in life? You'll never have it with someone who shares their love with someone else. You sure don't think to highly of yourself! You need to find a person that's single and can give you what you need. Shape up and forget about someone who is already married. There basically just using you because they can. Hope this helps. Cocoa
2007-01-05 12:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, talk to a counselor. The last thing you need is a blast from the past who's already taken, too. You'll probably always think of him occasionally, but I promise it will get better.
2007-01-05 12:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by cross-stitch kelly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing everything you can to avoid the reality of the situation. The man that you care about is a man that lacks character. He lies and cheats. He used you. How can you love and care about someone who thinks so little of you?
You need to see this man for what he really is.
2007-01-05 12:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't make sense .What is crazy behind a married man?What trap r u in?What does a married man who is promised to someone else mean?what do people do everyday?Clarify yourself............
2007-01-05 12:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always hard to get over someone you love, but in your situation, I think you should take an inventory of the situation and gain a little anger. Anger is not always negative; it can be a catalyst. I mean, think about it: how dare he treat you like that! Letting you play second fiddle! And if he did it with you, he'd do it to you! Cheater, cheater, pumpkin eater!!
2007-01-05 12:11:38 · answer #10 · answered by kathryn w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋