Being practical, not just morally correct.. if you have been married for 8 years, have children, love your wife, enjoy sex with her, but are unable to supress your sexual impulses... should you let them be and act on them from time to time, deny them, talk to your wife, get a divorce? What if u dont have to divorce? or hurt your wife?
2007-01-05 03:53:14 · 8 answers · asked by Confussed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being bi is no excuse for destroying your marriage. If you don't have enough self-discipline to control your sexual urges, then you do not deserve to have a loving wife.
Be fair to her, but also be fair to yourself. If you are unhappy, then talk to her about it. Perhaps there is something she can do (strap-on maybe?). But don't destroy your marriage just because of a "grass is greener..." thought line.
If you really need a man, than discuss it with your wife and consider your options (threesome, swinging, divorce). Be fair to your wife though. She is caught in the middle of something she didn't ask for.
2007-01-05 04:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you are fighting the battle. I'm guessing it's something you can't talk about with your wife. In the long wrong, no matter how you look at it, if you went out and swapped bj's with another guy, it would be cheating on your wife. I'm sure you wouldn't want to hurt her that way.
So what's a guy to do? Nothing. I know how you feel, but cheating is cheating.
Good Luck.
2007-01-05 11:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is a hard questions to answer since I don't know how it feels. But you got married and commited to be faithfull to her and respect her. Their is a lot of people you are going to hurt if you keep cheating. If you love your wife and enjoy sex with her I try your hardest to make it work and fight on your other feelings and just pray to God to help you go the right direction. He will listend and believe me he will help you.
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2007-01-05 12:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by Christina L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe it to yourself and your wife to discuss your sexuality and deal with it as a team. There are many ways on how to deal with "urges" but the first step is to be fair to your wife and tell her. I am bi, my wife knows and we deal with it as a team that loves each other for the qualities that our relationship was founded on. I would suggest researching support groups on the best way for you to handle things based on your individual circumstance. The CLR yahoo group is a great place to start. CLR = Closed Loop Relationship
Good luck and always treat your wife as you would want to be treated.
2007-01-06 20:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by Houston Golf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch Broke Back Mountain
2007-01-05 11:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Khandi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you think there are different rules for straight married men, gay married men, and bi married men?
How stupid are you?
If you are a MARRIED MAN you have the same rules. Stay true to your spouse and family. This also applies to married women too.
Married people are to suppress their sexual impulses and re-focus them on their spouse. Its what they should do. If you do other wise you are a bad spouse.
HOWEVER, its your choice to be a bad spouse or good spouse.
2007-01-05 13:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered a threesome? Seriously, maybe your wife would be okay with it, and maybe it would help your urges. Bringing another person into the bedroom can be fun, but I don't know what your wife would think ...
2007-01-05 13:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you my ex-husband? Hey you owe $14,000 in child support where have you been? With that big guy who works at the Salvation Army? The attorney general will be contacting you soon.
2007-01-05 11:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋