I live with my best friend. Shortly after we started living together, I realized that I have feelings for him that go beyond friendship, but he doesn't return those feelings even though he cares a great deal for me and doesn't want to lose me as a friend. Neither of us can move until our lease is up (for various financial and technical reasons) and...honestly, neither of us wants to move. He wants a friend who will be supportive of his relationship goals and I want to be the kind of person who can rise above petty jealousy and consistent feelings of rejection. I've been terrible and I just want to stop. I never thought of myself as a bad person, but I hate myself more and more every day that I can't be the friend he wants and needs.
2007-01-05 03:43:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Learn to be a true friend!
Get out and find someone who wants a romantic relationship with you. Ask your roommate for help and advice. Treasure your friendship; it could last for a lifetime!
2007-01-05 04:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't loose a valueable friend! Get out there and meet someone else, that is usually the only way, in my opinion to get over heartbreak and disappointment.
Once you meet someone else, and take your mind off him, you'll be able to live with him peacefully. I promise this won't last forever, and if he's a good guy, don't ruin your relationship forever. At least he was honest with you about his feelings, or lack of feelings for you.
2007-01-05 04:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by brown_iyed_grrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are just asking for more heartbreak if you stay. I would suggest you move out. Break your lease and get a new roommate. Distance and time will be the only things that can help you get over him.
2007-01-05 03:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck! You really need to look into another place to live and with a different room mate. I dont know if you will ever be able to be friends either!
2007-01-05 04:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by mlhjerp2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a problem for both of you maybe you need to get a rebound guy to help you get over your roomate
2007-01-05 03:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by lost_in_love_still 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋