I am engaged to a beautiful woman I am in love with her deeply! And... For the past few months I have been supporting her in any and every way possible u can think of! We just had a baby boy last August and I gave her time to heal from it! I have cooked, cleaned the house, the laundry, paid the bills, and even massaged her cute little feet from time to time. never askig her to do a thing! Until recently... See! Its been over 4 months now and she still doesn't want to have intercourse with me. She says she always have problems or she is hurting for whatever reason. She doesn't want me to have female friends and she constantly goes through my e-mails and such to check and see if i am talking to any other women. But, she still talks to other males. Am I wrong to suspect that she might be cheating on me? And When she has issues I am there to comfort her... But when I have issues she's never there for me. Should I continue to be there for someone that isn't there for me? What should I Do?
2007-01-05 03:32:32 · 10 answers · asked by omorede 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Having a baby is an incredible experience, but it sure can take a toll on Mom. Body issues, horomonal changes, exhaustion. You sound like an amazing guy- but sometimes it just is not enough. She really should go to the Dr (you could go with) and talk about the changes and lack of desire. It is possible that it hurts, I had a very deep episiotomy when I had my first, and it was very tender for about 6 months. I still tried, but it was almost always uncomfortable. The trust issues are another deal. If she is a bit depressed, she could just be paranoid. She has more to lose now should you cheat on her. Her man, the father to her baby..... sit down and have a heart to heart. No confrontation, just one lover to another. And see if she is willing to go to the Dr. or do whatever she can to fix things. You are not being unreasonable and if she is unwilling to fix things, then you should wonder. Good luck, and good job!
2007-01-05 03:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are engaged to her for a reason. Right? Obviously you love her. I don't know much about the after effects of giving birth, but she's suffering from depression.? I'm not sure..
But if that's the case, that probably would not explain her talking to other guys. Are you there for her mentally? Maybe that's why she's talking to other men..............
Sounds like there is something she isn't telling you?....it does sound like she's cheating on you. Even if she is just "talking" to other men...
2007-01-05 03:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by ~Fabulous~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's insecure and jealous about something probably nothing to do with you. My ex was just like almost everything you desribed. That's not the way a marriage should work. It's a 2 way street. She should and can't expect you to do things if she's not even willing.
Have you confronted her about this? If not, do so and make sure you do so in a non threatening manner, that won't help.
2007-01-05 03:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by spanky1492 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is having pain down there, she needs to go to a doctor asap! You need to confront her with this, she has some serious trust issues. I dont know if you have given her a reason to mistrust you, but if you havent.... I can say with certainty that when a person starts mistrusting someone for no apparent reason, they are usually guilty of something. Good luck
2007-01-05 03:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a sweetheart! She's lucky to have you. She should be checked by a doctor if intercourse is painful for her. Women usually resume sex relations 6 weeks after birth. You deserve someone that's going to be as good to you as you are to them.
2007-01-05 03:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by Susan P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there are 2 obvious options.. she might be cheating on u .. or she might not... i f she isn't perhaps she really it's in pain and she doesn't wanna have sex with u, and she doesn't wanna other girls around u because she might be feeling insecure about it ...but it's not right.. you should tell her that u can have female friends.. and she should stop been a control freak.
If she's cheating on you... perhaps you should try to investigate it.. to have proofs.. and then face her ... and make her confess.
Just try talking to her about this... about your doubts.. and see how she reacts...
good luck.. and try to be more patient... just a lil' bit
2007-01-05 04:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by MusicAsAir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is having pain down there she needs to see a doctor. And i think your gf has a problem if she can talk to her male friends but she gets mad at you for talking to your female friends. Hypocritical if you ask me. Talk to her and let her know how you feel and let her know where you stand.
2007-01-05 03:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt definitely remember if ur dad and mom are appropriate or incorrect... the biggest's.. its thier homestead, so thier regulations. in the event that they wana over react.. then they might, its thier homestead. so ur only goin to might desire to admire the certainty that they r helping u out with the aid of letting united statesa. there until u can get on ur feet, and admire thier regulations. thats the crappy element approximately residing with dad and mom, so u only gota handle it untill u can circulate on ur very own and make ur very own regulations.
2016-10-30 01:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should discuss role play and make her aware of the status quo plus its your kid both of you
2007-01-05 03:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's suspect.
2007-01-05 03:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by Lewis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋