What must as relationship have in order to even stand a chance of working?

Question

I'm conducting study to try and find the real reason why relationships fail. I know that there are many studies similar to this one out there already. So far I believe they fail is because both parties found each other based strongly on physical attraction and not personality. If you can't connect with a person personality wise then all you can really do is stare at each other and admire your looks and the realtionship goes no where. I know that everyone including me has a picture of their ideal soulmate. Once we gather a picture of our soulmate we attempt to go out and find people that fit this picture. I have learned that if you do this you limit yourself severely of finding someone and end up passing up on some really great people.

Answer 1

you need to open your heart to each other and accept them for who they are. make each other the most important thing in your lives. you also need lots of green M&M' s

Answer 2

i think a relationship has to consist of two people that get along first off, and they have to communicate with each other well, and you have to have trust in your mate, or else you will always be accusing each other of cheating, and if you can't trust someone why be with them?.. you have to be able to spend time together just to hang out, too many couples let $ex control the relationship, and therefore some couples are only together in person to have $ex, i mean i could understand if the person were busy, but if they can make time to meet up with you to have $ex, then they could set aside some time to actually spend time with you, like going to the movies, or just hanging out, too many couples lose communication and start letting things come in between their partner, and themself,.. which is basically pointing the relationship in the direction for a break-up.. i think if people could not look for a boyfriend, or girlfriend based mainly on looks, and instead on personality, then there would be many more happy coulples, instead of two attractive people that don't really like each other that much except other than how their partner looks.. because when it comes down to it.. would you rather be with someone really hot, that you have nothing in common with, and aren't very interesting, or someone that is alright looking, and makes you feel good, and can make you laugh, and feel comfortable.. i know many people probably think having someone hot by their side is really important.. but honestly.. it's really not.. i think when you get to know someone on a deeper level.. and you have a lot of things in common, and you can make each other laugh, and you are happy when you are around that person.. then you have truly found love that could last.. so the main thing, is just find someone that meets your expectations ( rational expectations that is ) and then you can truly say you've found True L♥ve!..

Answer 3

A personal commitment between two people based on trust, love and respect with compassion, in my opinion relationships involve a high level of trust where people have agreements to be loyal to each other, to reproduce together, and to raise their children together. These commitments are not to be taken lightly and realists are supposed to act ethically and responsibly when it comes to other people and their obligation to raise children. do encourage close personal commitment in a relationship especially if children are either planned or involved. Family stability is very important to a strong healthy society and we take the commitment to raising children very seriously. I hope this helps :-D

Answer 4

Passion.I believe this with all my heart (not that I have one)
if you don't have a passion for life and the person you are with it won't last.that's why people look outside the relationship(to find passion)people get comfortable and stop putting forth the effort.I know that's what I need.then trust and honesty.But passion is most defiantly the number one thing.

Answer 5

Trust.

Answer 6

communication. people in relationships have to communicate. by this i do not mean merely talk to one another, i mean that they must be able to tell each other what is bothering them and discuss the issue thoughtfully to reach a solution. many couples let thing fester until they explode, this is never good.

Answer 7

Trust.

Answer 8

Acceptance
Trust
Love

Answer 9

respect and understanding.... but I don't think you can measure relationships with a study. All you'll probably find out is that not one is the same.

Answer 10

Trust, communication, common interests, respect.