How do I find my niche in life?

Question

I'm not happy at this point in my life. I have been really searching myself for over a year for any clue of what I REALLY want to do with my life. I want a new career, but not just one that will bring me back to this same point. But I live in a small town and I'm trying to find something that would fit into my life here without moving my family. I have friends that have found their place and make good money too and although I am glad for them I am so sad b/c I want that for myself! Somebody please help!

Answer 1

People will tell you it's as simple as finding what you like in life and doing it. It's almost that simple. Your niche in life may have nothing to do with your job or your community, or it may have everything to do with it. Finding your niche is very personal but here are some simple guidelines:

1. Don't berate yourself.
Most people don't know what they 'want to do with their life.'

2. Seriously consider things that you normally would have said were impossible.
Just because something isn't easy doesn't mean you should give up on it.

3. Make a list of things you want to do in/with your life and then decide how to do them.
This can be as simple as 'go to europe' or as long-term as 'start an animal shelter.' Don't consider if they are 'realistic' when you are making the list. Sure, you cannot be an international model unless you leave home, but you can still do things related to your field.

4. Try new things.
Even things you might have always wanted to do, but were afraid to. These might be the best way to find out 'what you are running from' becuase everyone has some trepidation about finding their place.

5. Don't let other people discourage you.
Most people talk themselves out of doing what they want before their friends can, but just because someone doesn't agree with your dream doesn't mean that your dream is invalid.

Your niche isn't your job, though it can be. What you need is a way to feel comfortable in your life, that it has a purpose and a goal. You want to feel a part of something bigger, even if your niche turns out to be very personal.
Finding what is holding you back from your 'life' is usually you. No disrespect intended. Your situation is that you don't feel 'connected' with yourself. Somewhere in you there is a person who knows what she wants. Just don't let your 'reality' get in the way of finding what makes you happy. If you still cannot find your niche just consider what I said at the beginning: 'find what you like.' That's the key.

Answer 2

Hey pslepard,

It is a sad state that schools drop us off without having answered this question for us. The conventional schools teach you basics, but they do not attempt to help you find something that will produce a good income and truly make you happy. The people that have that are very lucky.

After 53 years, still the concept of "what do you want to do when you grow up" haunts me. In my life now are the things that make me happy the most, my family, my home in a warm climate, working from home. The job is a challenging one, and the travel can be exciting.

To do this, the discovery that no one makes me happy but me was an Epiphany. After careers in nuclear power, software programming, quality, testing, and projects for a variety of companies, it seems that what is done is not the key for most people.

The lucky ones that get to do their childhood dreams and brag about it, they are rare. So, put a smile on your face, enjoy the company of the people you associate with, and keep trying different things. No harm in looking forever, just be happy.

Answer 3

You've got to find something that excites you, makes you want to pursue it. Education is always a start, whether on the Internet or locally. But there are also trade-offs. Keep searching; the more information, the better...

Answer 4

First you have to be appreciative of the blessings you have. Look around you and see unfortunate people who would like to be in your place. Have some introspection and determine what your "zest" in life is, then when you have done this., go for it with your whole heart and soul.

Answer 5

like your self first and do for your self also ,,,then put your self in the wight place so you can meet new friends and have new opportunity ,,,life is sweet ,,you get what you put out in life ,,,i will work you if you want a good job ,,making $400 a week ,,you have to be 18 and willing to work and save your money,,,,,

Answer 6

you dont find it
you CURVE your OWN.