My husband who has just come out as a sex addict said the chaffing that constantly appeared on his penis was just from rubbing his penis through his pants at work while watching porn. This doesn't make sense to me but I'm not a guy. He has had cybersex and viewed porn for the past 6 years at work but swears that he never masturbated while he was there. He always had dry spots on his penis though. (scabs actually)
Would you believe him?
Men - can you just have cybersex and watch porn without actually orgasming? Seems like a waste of time to me but then again...men and women are so different!! :)
Any thoughts would be appreciated.
P.S. He had his own office without windows and a door - just for the record.
2007-01-05 03:04:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Thanks everyone. I pretty much figured he is lying...again. Man - this sex addiction thing and lying is unbelievable. I never in a million years thought my husband would turn out this way.
Just out of curiousity. He was doing this daily at work he has told me - if this is true and he wasn't masterbating - wouldn't he have had other problems?? Blue Balls???
He swears that he is telling the truth this time but it doesn't make sense to me and if there is one thing I have learned recently is when it doesn't make sense, he is usually lying.
2007-01-05 03:46:39 · update #1
I would think he's probably masturbating. Not sure why he would lie about that. He's already admitted to having a sex addiction. But if addicts are good at anything, it's lying!
2007-01-05 03:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chaffing would not be caused by having sex, since intercourse requires lubrication. So be greatful he's chaffing, at least you know what he's up to. The chaffing is either from masturbating or an STD. I'm assuming you don't have an STD, so that means he doesn't. The skin on the penis is not like the skin on your arm, and it is prone to chaffing (I should know, I've done it). He's masturbating. Let me help you out: all guys masturbate. Period.
I wouldn't believe him. Because I'm a guy.
Yes, we can have cybersex and watch porn without orgasming, but that is the point of having cybersex and watching porn. Can we do it without orgasm? Of course. Do we want to? No. Given the choice what do we do? Finish the job.
We are simply not wired to get all hot and bothered....for nothing.
2007-01-05 11:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by Thegustaffa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can get chaffing from continual masturbation and from rubbing your penis through your pants.
I don't think he should be doing this stuff at work. Nasty...especially if he is soiling his pants at work. Yuck. But yes, I often enjoy watching porn for long periods without orgasming. For some, it's just entertainment!
2007-01-05 11:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by texascrazyhorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's got to relax!! he must be workin it pretty hard to cause cuts. tell him to use Vaseline or somethin instead of sandpaper.
tell him to get that checked out at a doctor, could be something else.
Yes, guys could watch porn just as easily as if they were watchin a ball game. guys would get tired of porn quicker though. if i were bored, and didn't have a girlfriend or anything else in my life to do, i would sit down and check it out.
seriously, tell him to get to a doctor, cuz he shouldn't be openin up and scabbin on his ding-dong. either he's too fast and furious, or he's got dry, sensitive skin. he could be givin you somethin without knowin it.
Up the sex and watch some with him, that should work.
2007-01-05 11:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by robyoung3484 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband watched porn when he was a teen long before i met him and he admitted that he couldn't do it with out masturbating. I won't believe that a guy couldn't watch porn without masturbating. Doesn't it upset you that he's done cyberspace? I'd be upset if my husband did that. I think it's possible that a guy could chaff if he's masturbated a lot and it sounds to me like he won't admit that he's done that while watching porn.
2007-01-05 11:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah its just well kinda like jus getting off a water ride at a theme park and then having to walk to the entrance (it happened to me) oh yeah you are at the opposite end of the park where the entrance is... its really hard to explain...but yeah it can happen.. and I would believe him....none the less he would have some x plaining to do cause it seems like ur not satifying himlol
2007-01-05 12:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by Get_in_my_belly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He watches porn at work? Geeez... what kind of a job does he have. I want one like that.
And PS.... if a guy watches porn - he wants to finish. I find that hard to believe. I pity the maid that cleans your hubby's office.
2007-01-05 11:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
P.S. He had his own office without windows and a door - just for the record.
No door either??? How is that possible??
2007-01-05 11:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by Fashionista 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have never got scabs from masturbating,i only get scabs when i have rough sex or if she is dry,or if your constantly having sex you get em called sex burn
2007-01-05 11:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by hooya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is from a lot of masturbation
2007-01-05 11:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋